Last Monday, I was walking with some friends to the movie theatre to watch Iron Man.

If you guys like action or superhero movies, go watch it! It was kick ass!!!

On the way there, the girl asked:

Man… why is it so cold tonight? Brrr…

I looked at her funny and said:

It always makes me laugh when someone wonders why the weather is a certain way. It just is. Why does it matter if it’s cold or hot? It’s not like you can do anything about it. [grin]

She looked at me completely confused while her boyfriend cracked up hysterically.

Seriously… Sometimes, I think people just like to ask the most worthless questions and by doing so, they don’t realize how much mental energy they waste on things that don’t matter or on things they can’t do anything about.

A lot of guys in the Seduction Community do just that.

They focus on the wrong things. They ask the wrong questions. Therefore, they get sidetracked by things that don’t matter. Then they get frustrated that they don’t progress faster.

And sometimes… eventually, they give up.

You never fail when you give it your all…
because you learned something from the experience.

Last Sunday, a guy asked me what he could write in his first email to the woman he just met a few days beforehand.

As usual, I asked him for more background information. What do you know about her? What have you done with her so far? What do you want to say or convey to her? Where do you want to lead her?… etc.

Based on what he gave me, I suggested a cool opening topic he could use to start his email so that she would feel the desire to respond to him but as he told me more, something didn’t click.

He told me the girl was from the UK and was visiting LA. She’d soon leave to visit Las Vegas, then San Francisco before returning to London. I asked him:

So when are you going to see her?

To which he replied:

I don’t know.

So I told him:

So why does it matter what you are going to say in your email?!? You aren’t even going to be able to see her!!!

When you are learning something, make sure you ask the right questions. Focus on the right things and you’ll learn a lot faster.

There’s no point of Read the rest of this entry »

I’ll be honest. I wasn’t very good in college when it came to meeting the ladies. 

I was your typical nice guy.  I didn’t have the confidence nor the edginess to really attract them sexually. 

Classes and school clubs were great to meet them but beyond that, I didn’t know what to do.  

Worse of all, I was your avid video gamer back then.  All I knew was study, play Counter-Strike, sleep and eat… along with the occasional booze party.  Out of that list, studying was the most optional activity.

Looking back, I don’t have any real regrets because I learned so much about myself through my “playing video games for competition” phase.  As funny as it sounds, I did learn a lot about leadership and how to gain trust with people because all my social interactions were internet based. 

However, if I had to do it all over again, I’d take more opportunities to enjoy the college social scene.  How often would you find yourself in a highly concentrated breeding ground filled with hot, sexy, beautiful, young women who are open to “have fun” while in school?

Yeaaaaa…  That’s what I thought.  I can see you grinning from ear to ear right now.

College is an interesting time for most of young Americans.  That’s the time when you can still go out and mess up without getting too much in trouble.  So take advantage of it!  Interestingly, a lot of the young aspring Pick-Up Artists (PUAs) I’ve met in Los Angeles are college-aged.  I see them go out a lot and “practice” but I think they aren’t taking advantage enough of their college social scene.

They are afraid that they will get burned by practicing pickup in their college social circles.  They’re right!  You can’t do newbie drills or practice random lines in a college setting.  You also can’t focus ONLY on pickup.  That’d be total social suicide… unless you truly understand how to navigate that social scene and know what to focus on.

Having lots of girls in your life, no matter what you do, is a LIFESTYLE.

If I was in school again, I’d want to create that lifestyle with the help of Mark Redman’s Conquer Your Campus e-book in my backpack. 

Yep, forget clubs and bars.  Do you realize how many women are DYING to meet you in college?

I personally go on the UCLA campus once in a while just to watch people interact.  Every student there is in their own coma.  When’s the next test?  When’s the next project due?

If you wanted to approach, meet and talk to someone, there is no competition.  It only takes one tiny bit of courage and energy for you to take girls out of their daily routine and for you to get them completely enchanted by you.  Read the rest of this entry »

A couple weeks ago, a girl I really liked and I “broke up”. 

We never really dated. 

We’ve been friends for a year and a half.  We started our friendship with a very hot makeout but life happens and we never managed to see each other much.

On the day we “broke up”, she told me very harsh words via texts.  Somehow, I wasn’t phased. I saw these words for what they were:  a mere reflection of her own confused emotional state.

I was sad… not because I didn’t get the girl, not because I lost a friend.  I was sad because she couldn’t see how much she had.  She had so much potential and beauty but oftentimes, she would look for outside validation to make herself feel better instead of truly believing in herself. 

I was sad that on many occasions, she behaved a certain way because she didn’t know better.

Yesterday, I went to meet up with some friends to play golf.  I arrived an hour late (I didn’t sleep very much the night before).  I didn’t know what I was doing but I walked on the golf course directly to hole #3 to see my friends.  I didn’t know I couldn’t walk on like that.  I didn’t even pay. 

As I started walking towards my friends, people were yelling at me from afar to tell me something.  I looked back without really understanding what people wanted and kept on walking.  I was unphased by the commotion and social pressure around me.

My friend couldn’t believe what I just did.  He said I was “Gangsta” for walking in like that.

A week and a half ago, I got into a car accident.

I was driving straight when the other car trying to turn left hit me on my driver side, rear wheel.  My car spun almost 180 degrees and I came to a complete stop on the side of the curb, facing back traffic.

Throughout the entire experience, I saw everything move in slow motion.  I wasn’t afraid.  I wasn’t panicked.  I knew what to do.

A few days ago, my insurance deemed my car as “total loss”.  The damages were too heavy for repairs when considering how many miles my car had.  I have to buy a new car now.  The other insurance hasn’t accepted liability yet either.  My rental car may not get paid by the insurance.  What it translates to is…

I have a lot of uncertainty floating around in my life at this moment.  I am faced with potentially new financial stress.

But I am calm.

How do YOU react to the pressures in your life?  When faced with unexpected situations, how do you handle negative or overwhelming emotions?

Jealousy, anger, fear, anxiety, pain, feelings of inadequacy, strong urge to feel loved, racism, embarrassment…

These are all emotions that will test your emotional strength and character.

These are also emotions that will arise when a woman teases you or as the Seduction Community calls it “shit tests” you.

As men, we are taught to be unreactive… almost to the point of stoicism.  In hopes of being strong, I learned to hide my emotions.  That’s what I thought being strong meant.  That’s what I believed for a long time. 

Don’t show your emotions.  It’s weak.

I became afraid of feeing sad, angry, scared… etc because I thought showing emotions meant I was weak.

I was wrong.  Emotions are what makes me feel alive.  They are what makes me feel strong.  I can’t run away from them and I shouldn’t have to hide them.  Instead, I need to embrace them.

But as much as I embrace them because they make me feel alive, I don’t let my emotions control me.   Read the rest of this entry »

 

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