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| The Real-Life Hitch: David Wygant |
| Posted by Khiem in: First Impressions |
Imagine Will Smith, acting as Hitch, enter the library room at the Viceroy Hotel in Santa Monica on a Thursday night. He is sporting True Religion jeans, red Converse-like sneakers and a collarless form-fitting shirt. His understated fashion downplays his true good looks. He is tall and fit. As he walks in the room filled with 90% men (one girl is present - my friend “Radiant Sun”, formerly known on this blog as the “White Woman”), he looks around with a confident smile. All eyes are on him but he doesn’t seem one bit intimidated. With little to no effort, he takes control of his surroundings with charm and energy. Within minutes, everyone seems entranced by him and for the next hour or so, words of wisdom are shared on the topic of dating.
Now… pause the image you have in your mind. Switch out Will Smith for a white man in his mid-40s. Keep the handsome part, but change his looks to a taller and more slender version of Hitch. Press play again and there! You now have David Wygant. If you don’t know who he is, go check his website. He is what he calls a ”dating agent” and he wants to put you ”into a position to succeed with women in a way that works best for YOU.” It’s not about just meeting and bedding women anymore, it’s about finding the right woman.
I listen attentively to everything he has to say and I’m beginning to really like him. Unlike your average dating coach, he has actually worked with A-listers in the entertainment/business world and teaches both men and women. He’s also well recognized in the mainstream media as he occasionally writes dating advice for Yahoo! and has been featured in countless magazine articles. Unlike many pick-up gurus, he doesn’t advocate a one-size fits all approach either. His coaching is aimed at giving you a strong foundation and building your strengths on top of it. He wants to give you the tools to be able to talk to anyone anytime, and also encourages you to meet women in places where you have no real competition (he recommends paying attention to the women in your daily routine. Think of grocery stores, book stores, yoga studios, parks, etc… rather than bars and clubs). Interesting… indeed.
I was very impressed with the way David carried himself. He reminded me of Wayne “Juggler” Elise, but David was a more energetic, fun version of him. Wayne is funny because he doesn’t take himself very seriously whereas David is funny because he’s just “out there.” Maybe it’s all in my head but I’m noticing a trend that even Johnny Wolf from SoCal Lair is seeing (yeah, Johnny was out with me too). A lot of “natural” guys carry a very strong presence. Their energy level is different based on their personality but they share this very warm, approachable and magnetic aura around them. I don’t know why yet, but it’s something I don’t sense in indirect method guys as often as in natural guys. Maybe I just haven’t met that good of indirect guys yet.
After his talk, I stayed to speak with him for 15 minutes or so. A lot of what he said really hit home with my own personal beliefs:
- He’s not fond of the routine approach to dating because “meeting people is not a game, it’s an art.” Routines encourage guys and girls to play games with each other and they don’t really teach you to connect properly with women. “Natural is the only way to live.”
- The best opener is to observe the girl and/or your surroundings and use that as a conversation starter. From there, you can talk about things you are both interested in and have fun with it (this reminded me a lot of the things I told “StreetWiseKeen” last year when I went out with him on Third Street Promenade)
- Always have fun first (which is the same as what theApproach advocates with their “keeping the proper focus” concept). Meeting women should not be hard. It should feel easy and casual.
- You want to always allow the energy in the interaction to flow freely (this is very similar to the Continuous Flow of Action by theApproach)
- Creating sexual tension is very important in solidifying the attraction/seduction. It’s about making sex her idea. When you can successfully do this, you enter a new category of men that women want to escalate on first.
- Tantric/erotic massage is one of your greatest tools to achieve great sex.
All in all, David Wygant was the unexpected but pleasant surprise of my Thursday night outing. What I liked about him most (besides his charismatic energy) is that I could see myself hang out with him. He is a very engaging person. I wasn’t afraid to introduce him to my non-Community friends so I decided to invite him out to my friend’s birthday on Saturday night. Everyone seemed to enjoy his company.
Now, if you want to learn more about him, take a look at his blog. He posts twice daily and also has podcasts for you to listen to. I listened to them over the weekend after I met him and they are good. They are short too… about 10 minutes each so it’s really easy to listen to.
If you want to meet him without taking his bootcamp, he’ll be speaking at the PUA Summit this August 25-26. When you go buy your tickets, remember that you can get $50 off by using “kissntale” as your discount code on the checkout page.
Now… because I like to give stuff out, I asked David to allow me to offer you guys a free copy his Mastery Audio Series for Men, Volume 1. It’s entitled “Target Practice” and has 42 min worth of audio on the mindset you should have for successful dating. Guess what? He said yes, so download it here (19.5 MB – right click and save as…) before he changes his mind. Just know that the 8 volumes series is never sold separately and will cost you $169.95 as a complete package. I haven’t reviewed Volume 1 yet but if you like it, you can buy the rest of his series on his website. Have fun, guys! 
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July 30th, 2007 at 10:51 pm
Nice summary of your meeting with David Wygant and glad to see a shift toward the natural game. It’s still a game–the DATING game–but the idea of finding the RIGHT woman while you’re out there having fun, is a solid game plan. Have fun, meet girls, but DO keep your eyes open for the RIGHT one!
July 30th, 2007 at 11:22 pm
That is really interesting. When you first told me about him, I was kinda skeptical. I saw the video of the dating bootcamp on his site and was wondering how he could tell a guy to go for a girls number in 20 seconds. I still don’t really get it but if he’s good, he’s good and I’d like to see his simplified approach.
I can see a lot of parallels to that day on the promenade too. I’ll check out some of his website, his audio series and the podcast.
July 31st, 2007 at 8:49 am
Hey Streetwisekeen
You can grab a number in 20 seconds without the routines and the song and dance if you have the balls to tell the truth.
Men think they need to be performing some magical mystifying routine to grab her attention but in reality all women are attracted to men who have confidence. That is what I teach pure real confidence and it really does not matter what you say as long as you say it with conviction.
I coach women and have for 10 years and they all want the games when meeting to stop. Take for instance some of the routines that are taught by people like Mystery and show 10 women his routines and they all laugh and say the same things.
The only women who fall for that junk are drunken women in the clubs and bars and these women are the worst to meet. The promenade as you mention have better women…all alone or with one friend making them far easier to meet plus no competition from annoying drunken men.
I have many times walked over to a woman spoke the truth and walked away with the number….and when i called her actually got a call back.
You will get the call back when you learn the art of the approach.
To break it down further you will need to understand how a woman is wired and why this direct no games method turns her on.
You are doing something that no other guy has the balls to pull off and she will respect you and give up that number.
Most guys walk over doing the same routines that she has already seen and heard….boring and predictable to her.
She has seen the magic tricks…the card tricks…the palm reading…the negs….and the cube.
She has not seen the guy who respects her and walks over with confidence that is real and authentic.
That is unique to her. And being unique is what I teach. Why act like all the rest when you can be the best?
Come to an event that I have one day and you will realize that not only is this easy but you will also start to understand how women are wired…learn that and you will be dating a whole new level of women.
There is a great podcast that you need to listen to on my site.
It is called walk away.
Let me know if you need anymore information.
July 31st, 2007 at 3:13 pm
Nice article Khiem!
July 31st, 2007 at 7:11 pm
Hey David,
I think you have me a little mistaken. I actually run natural game, no routines, no negs, etc. Is it safe to say your game is direct game?
I have no doubt some girls want the games to stop but it seems a majority don’t and on a certain level there still needs to be something there. Maybe just in my beginner’s mind, I don’t see how pure confidence can net you a number in 30 secs. I mean, there has to be a window to display that confidence right?
On a side note, I love what you say about examining your daily routine. I’ve always said the same thing too: I’d rather get good at day game because that’s where I’m going to be meeting the bulk of girls I meet. Before pick up, I hadn’t been to one club and after I get proficient who knows? I’d rather be able to run game in the bookstores, campus, street and on the bus.
When Khiem and I went to bondage ball, we were talking at Mel’s later on and he also mentioned being authentic in regards to not needing opinion openers because women are so used to finding guys who aren’t very authentic or trying to be someone they’re not.
But I’d definitely like to see more of this system. If you can get numbers consistently within 30 sec, then I’d love to see what you do different. Next time you have a meet and greet or seminar, I’d love to come and hear you talk.
- Streetwisekeen
July 31st, 2007 at 7:44 pm
Hey Streetwisekeen
I combine direct with natural depending on the situation. IF i know I only have limited time then i will walk over with confidence and break the ice with authority.
When we meet up I will show you what I am talking about. As for day game….I always said the same women that blow you off at night with attitude are mine the next morning at whole foods and starbucks.
When i coach i do not teach direct game from the get go. I believe that it is a process to get there and i teach the steps so the person that i am working with can grasp each stage and build up their confidence.
Its all good and its all part of the journey that we are all on:)
August 5th, 2007 at 10:01 pm
I’ve read a few of David’s articles on Yahoo! Very common sense advice which reminds of the stuff I learned from Kory. Basic go after what you want in the most simple, direct, but fun way possible. We really do make this harder than it is.
August 5th, 2007 at 10:02 pm
I just want to add that the simplicity of their ways is what makes their “methods” (and I hesistate to use that word) so…correct, for lack of a better word.
September 7th, 2007 at 11:44 pm
Cool intro of David Wygant, I didn’t know he was the inspiration for the movie Hitch. Am learning more and more about the game and the dynamics between men and women as I go along.
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