I found your blog also through Dicknotists’s.  I enjoyed reading your blog because at my deepest core – I really do enjoy connecting with people.  

Having never had mLTR, I have no idea which is gonna feel right for me but I am excited to try both.  We’ll see where this goes.

Awesome to hear a different, less vocalized perception of relationships.  Thanks man.

His points, as summarized here, are:

Too many choices cause:

- Paralysis rather than liberation – people prefer to make no decision rather than make a complicated choice.
- Less satisfaction with decisions as people have greater reason to regret the decisions they have made.
- Unrealistic expectations.
- Self-blame – when experiences are not perfect, people blame themselves.

There’s more in his book The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less

You could look at dating in the context of auction styles, as Patri Friedman from Catallarchy posts about here

How is an English [auction style] dater ever to know, for example, that their current mate is the highest bidder? And given that, how are they supposed to forge a meaningful long-term relationship with their eye still on the market? Is it possible for an English dater to settle down when they have gotten used to ditching their date when something better comes along?

Glen cites search theory as the relevant branch of economics, but I would cite the commitment strategy aspects of game theory. There are situations (like the game of chicken) where restricting one’s later options is a winning strategy, and being open to changing your mind is actually a loss. And I think that many happily married people would agree that marriage is one of them – if you view it as a temporary expedient, you are unlikely to get very much out of it.
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Good stuff Khiem.

I would suggest the chorus of angels could be… a trigger for that old feeling of “the hunt” rather than a genuine potential connection. Afterall, a genuine connection is about getting to know someone, which is not instantaneous.