I went to UCLA with a friend of mine yesterday.  I was going to help him get over his approach anxiety. 

I don’t know how or why but I have no approach anxiety anymore so it’s only normal that I want to help a fellow mate.  

I used to get the ”little butterflies in the stomack” feeling once in a while before but in the past 1-2 months, it completely disappeared.  I can approach in just about ANY environment… whether it’s a club, a house party, a bar or well… a college campus.  I’m also having a lot more fun with my interactions.

I feel sooooo free!  The ability to talk to anyone, anytime, anywhere feels very liberating.  However, this new freedom also made me sad for my friend.  I really want him to get over it or at least not get debilitated by it.  I’ll probably share with you guys how you can get over approach anxiety for good in another post but right now, I want to talk about college game.

College game is SUPER easy!  I walked all over campus and there wasn’t a girl I couldn’t talk to.  The one single greatest thing about girls on campus is that they have a propensity to be friendly.  Everyone on campus assumes that you are a student and as such, they assume they’ll probably run into you again.  So why not be friendly?

For example, there was this HOT Persian girl in the bookstore.  [OK, it's NOT the girl in the picture below but she really looked like her.  She was wearing nice form-fitting jeans and a beige sweater.]

I asked my buddy to go talk to her based on the first 1 or 2 things he noticed about her.  He noticed how she was carrying 2 bags and was wearing light brown platform running shoes but he couldn’t work up the courage to approach her.  So I did.  I asked her if her platform shoes were comfortable and we transitioned into a wonderful 10-15 minute conversation about fashion, her plans for medical school and where she was raised.

The sad thing to me is that most college guys do not realize the social and dating potential they are sitting on.  As I watched people walk in and out of class, I saw them not even look up to notice what or who was around them.  Lots of guys AND girls were walking around with their iPod on.  They are all living in their own coma.

Hello?!?  WAKE UP!  They are SOOO many hot girls (and hot guys if you are a girl) to talk to there.  If you don’t have the balls to walk up to a girl cold, there are plenty of school club events and promotions that are golden opportunities for you to meet new people.

UCLA had a bunch of tables and booths with really cute girls promoting their organization’s causes.  You know what?  I talked to a lot of them.  I flirted with a lot of them.  We all had a good time.  We all laughed and I can’t believe I even got suckered into signing up for WooMe.com.  I thought speed dating was the shortcut to meeting people in real life but now, there’s a shortcut to the shortcut itself! 

I asked the WooMe girls how much time they spent on their site.  They unanimously agreed that they spent way too much time on it but the kicker is one of the girls actually met her current boyfriend on there.  WOW!

Anyway, if I had the confidence back in my college years to talk and flirt with girls the way I know to do now, college would have been very different.  I’d probably have some really crazy stories to tell.  However, I didn’t and this is why I wished more guys in college would be more aware of the treasure they are sitting on.  If only they could see it, they’d take a little more time to make sure they know how to approach and talk to girls.

That’s where people like David Wygant or Sebastian Drake from theApproach come into play.  They just teach you GREAT social and networking skills (and some more) because being a socially confident person is just a huge asset no matter what stage of life you are in.  However, I know not anyone can afford to take these bootcamps so if you want to see how easy it is to approach girls on campus, email me.  Assuming you live in Southern California, I’ll drive to where you are and show you how it’s done for a small donation. 

Now, in addition to good social skills, if you can get guidance from guys who also KNOW how to work the college scene, you would become unstoppable.  For that, you are in for a real treat.  Christian Hudson recently told me about his friend Mark Redman.  Mark started a blog to talk about how you can make the most of your social and dating experiences while in college.

I didn’t want to mention him before because I don’t promote things that I haven’t checked out.  I wanted to make sure his content was legit and healthy.  After spending the past 2 weeks reading and listening to his material, I can confidently say that I like it.  Mark really goes into what is important for you to know about college girls and their social circles. 

If you go on his mailing list, he also breaks down in one of his podcasts the 4 traits that would make you one of the “20% men who hooks up with 80% of college girls”.  So go take a look:  www.thetruthaboutcollegegame.com.

If you like what he says on his blog, you can probably grab his book as well.  The book will be launched tomorrow at noon.  I’ll probably make a review of it in the near future.

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