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| What It Means To Be A Man |
| Posted by Khiem in: Articles, Podcast |
I feel bad. I haven’t written a lot on the blog recently but it’s not because I don’t want to. I just have been busy. Yakub came to visit me and David for the past week and I’ve been taking him around, showing him the good life we have in CA.
If you haven’t noticed, I’ve been working with David Wygant a bit more lately. So a couple of my most recent posts have been published on his blog instead of mine. I’ll repost them here sometimes this week.
In the meantime, David, Yakub and I had some really good conversations this past Saturday on what it means to be a man. What does it mean to be a strong man? What does it mean to be attractive and desired by women?
I personally think that the topic of “being a man” is not discussed very often. As boys, we are told and we are expected to “be a man” but we are never really taught HOW to be one. We are told to stand up for ourselves and to be independent.
All I remember as a kid were vague “don’t cry”, “be strong” from the various father figures in my life. But how do you learn to be strong? How do you learn to be self-reliant? How do you learn to be an attractive man?
Women, on the other hand, learn to confide in each other. They share their inner fears and demons to one another. By discussing them, they learn how to become a woman. Men on the other hand usually don’t ask each other for help. We deal with problems on our own. It would be un-manly to ask someone for assistance.
So for the first time here, David, Yakub and I decide to sit down and discuss openly how we feel about being a man. I hope you enjoy it.
For me, being a man is similar to being a bamboo tree. You are to be grounded and strong but you can bend to the weather calamities at will without ever breaking. That supple core strength is what makes you a “strong” man.
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March 31st, 2008 at 9:05 pm
King Khiem
It was my pleasure hanging with ya and David and as always, I have such a blast that I had to change my flight. Now getting back to topic, being a man was one of the most interesting discussion ever. Not many people touch that as well as we did and I would recommend this blog/post to any men who really wants to learn what it means to go from a boy to a real Man.
March 31st, 2008 at 11:07 pm
Well said, Khiem and David. I love helping people reach their potential but sometimes, it still seems like I push guys. I’m getting out of it more and more but it’s still there. It just bugs me that I always end up wanting better for others than I they want for themselves. But… experience mixed with this audio is teaching me to be more and more about trying to help those who wish to be helped. Leave those alone who wish to do not wish to go that extra step. Good post khiem! I can’t wait for the other posts to be reposted here.
April 1st, 2008 at 1:58 pm
Cool!
I really enjoyed hearing your analogy of women as stars in your sky. Very inspiring, and like all great ideas, I’m going to steal it! (I will of course, give credit.)
2 things:
* I prefer to read your blog through my RSS reader, but you are only giving ‘teaser’ feeds. This is annoying! Please consider enabling full article text in your feeds.
* I’m going to be in LA in 2 weeks! If you’re going to be there as well, I’d love to meet up for a quick drink and chat about women and the blogosphere, or whatever strikes our fancy. This is not a pickup line!
Sincerely,
Alex
April 2nd, 2008 at 2:03 am
Hi Alex,
I fixed the RSS feed to provide full article view. However, you will probably still need to click "more" to continue reading the entire post since I split some of my articles to keep the homepage layout clean.
As far as meeting you in LA, I’m always open to meet interesting people. Shoot me an email with your itinerary/schedule/availability and we can take it from there.
Cheers!
~Khiem.
May 10th, 2008 at 11:39 am
Hi Khiem,
I thought your comments about what it means to be a man for a woman were really insightful.
As you know, I wrote a book that describes men to women. You validated what I learned in my 2 years of researching and interviewing men.
You and David know how to articulate what’s going on inside. My experience is that it’s not that men don’t talk about that stuff, it’s that they haven’t thought about it. I’m sure when you do your Boot Camps that the men discover their own depths when given the opportunity.
Thank you both for giving the world your gifts.
I’ve never set up an RSS feed to anyone else’s blog but I’m so impressed with your beautiful wisdom that I’m going to figure out how to do it. I want to be notified of all your posts.
Inspiring love in everyone,
Kara
June 29th, 2008 at 11:00 pm
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