At the beginning, the non-socially savvy guy knew how to have fun. 

He didn’t care about women because he had his toys.  He knew how to have fun with innanimate objects.  The toys could have been his video game console, his computer, his car/motorcycle, his comic books, his basketball… whatever.

One day, he realized he didn’t have many women in his life.  He embarked on a journey to fix that.  He learned about the Seduction Community.  He learned how to be playful in social settings.  He learned to have fun with people and more specifically with women.  He became a Pick-Up Artist (PUA).

He realized that by going through the process of socializing, meeting and arousing women, he could enjoy the sex he didn’t have before.  He even started to have many women wanting to be with him.  However, he wasn’t happier than before.  Women weren’t lacking anymore but he still had a problem.  He wasn’t feeling fulfilled.  He made women his purpose and he forgot how to live without women.

This is a common path for PUAs I’ve met in the Community.  Learning seduction techniques allowed you to get girls.  You learned to be a stud in bars, clubs, lounges and parties.  Each time you went out, there was a certain excitement to it and you became addicted.  You might even have dropped the hobbies or career goals you previously had to make time to go out and “practice” meeting women.  You loved being the master and star of your own social life.  You were getting more play that you’ve ever had before.

However, at some point, the novelty dwindled down or maybe it hasn’t.  Things became robotic and monotone or they became just too easy.  You were now looking for a deeper meaning to your life.  You wanted deeper relationships, deeper connections and you wanted to feel fulfilled by something… something other than your success with women.

I think there is a balance that we need to find in our own life to reach a satisfying sense of happiness.  Each person is different.  Some people want the playboy lifestyle.  Some people want the wife and kids dream.

No matter what you want.  You need to KNOW where you are walking towards.  You need to define your own purpose.  If you already have defined your purpose, take some time to reflect on your current trajectory in life.  As you build your social confidence and learn a minimum level of romantic skills, don’t forget to have fun doing things not related to women.

When is the last time you were out to have fun for the sake of having fun and NOT for the sake of practicing pick-up?  When’s the last time that you enjoyed yourself because you are your best company?  When’s the last time that you spent time on your own hobby?

Yakub has been hanging out with me for the past week.  This week has been one of the most fun times I’ve had.  We were enjoying some guy time.  He is a great sidekick.  We are both socially confident enough to meet women when we want to… but this week wasn’t about women.

This week was about having fun.  This week was about doing the most ridiculous things we could think of at the detriment of other people.  This week was about enjoying the simple moments without a goal.

Have you had fun lately?

And if you are already having fun things to do outside of women, don’t neglect your relationships with men.  I understand the Seduction Community teaches that any other “alpha” male might be an obstacle to you getting the woman but not EVERY guy should be seen as a hinderance.

I sometimes value my relationships with other men more than my relationships with women.  As man, I like to surround myself with women but my life does not revolve around them.  Having strong mentors and other successful men in my life is just as important, if not crucial to my own inner happiness.

In one of my social circles, the men are actually the only recurrent faces.  The women, on the other hand,  always change.

Yesterday, I tremendously enjoyed developing a stronger bond with men.  I’ve spent the entire day with Yakub, David Wygant and one of his clients.  His client was soooo interesting to listen to.  He has a lifestyle that I could only watch in movies.  He’s well travelled, he’s successful in his business and he’s done some of the craziest things I could possibly imagine (orgies and random wild adventures included).

To me, that time with him was invaluable.  Learning from his life experience was more important to me than to go out and pickup a woman. 

Do you have things to do outside of women that makes you happy?

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