Within the past week, I have written a couple guest blogs for David Wygant.  Today, I’m going to repost my “I’m curious” opener article.

If I was to believe David, I’ve come up with the single best opener of all times LOL 

Do you ever get stuck for an opener – you just don’t know what to say?

You see a woman standing in a supermarket, a bookstore, a jewelry store – hell, you could see her standing anywhere!  So what do you do in that situation?

The “I’m curious” line is a great line that will open just about anybody.  You are always curious about something and when you are genuinely curious about people, they will tell you more about whatever you are interested in.

So let’s break it down a little bit for specific situations.  She is standing in front of a clothing store, staring into the window.  What would you say to her?

“So, I’m curious about what you’re looking at – you look so interested in something, what is it?”  In any situation – a record store:  “I’m curious, what are you looking at right now?  What are you looking to buy?”  She’s staring at produce in the supermarket:  “I’m curious, what fruit do you want to buy?”

You can use that in every situation:  “I’m curious, what are you looking at?” – “I’m curious, what has your attention?”

You can even add a little bit of assumption or statement before the question, saying, “I’m curious, you seem so engrossed in something, what is it you are doing?”  Or, “I’m curious, I saw you doing this, why are you doing that?”  You can add a little bit after the “I’m curious” bit to give it a story if you want – but by itself, it is just as powerful.

This is a very powerful way to open a woman because being curious means that she intrigues you as well – and really no one can shut you down for that!

What I like best about teaching the “I’m curious” opener to guys is that it really forces them to be observant.  They have to pick something about the girl that makes them intrigued enough to walk up to the girl and chat.  They HAVE to pay attention to their surrounding and the situation at hand.  Hopefully, this will help them learn how to get out of their head and not think about the next line to say.  They have to listen and be in the moment.

The “I’m curious” opener also creates a built-in topic for you to use if you don’t know where to lead the conversation afterwards.  Based on what and how the woman answers your opener, you can go deeper in the topic she threw at you.  The conversation should naturally flow into something more personal and it then becomes completely natural for you to stay longer to chat with her.  If you are being genuinely interested and curious about her, you should never have the issue of “intruding” on her.

The structure of the “I’m curious” opener is also important to note.  By saying a quick intriguing statement first, you allow the woman’s mind to be receptive to your next question.  You are giving her time to come out of her coma and acknowledge your presence before you continue.  The initial “I’m curious” statement basically acts as an attention getter.  If you study NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), it creates an open loop. 

Finally, the “I’m curious” opener is pretty much rejection-proof.  Most opinion openers or opening routines need to be delivered with the right tonality and body language to be 100% successful.  The “I’m curious” opener is short enough and direct enough where there’s almost no way you can screw it up.  I’ve used it with the most outrageous question before.

• I’m curious, does it bother you when a guy walks up to you and keep on staring at your boobs?
• I’m curious, do you always have to walk by me like this and distract me?  I’m trying so hard to do some work and you are really not making it easy on me.
• I’m curious, are you single?
• I’m curious, do you prefer salad or chicken?

This opener is so versatile.  You can use it anywhere, anytime.  It’s so simple that it always comes across “normal” and relevant to whatever situation you are in.  It’s NEVER a pickup line

Let me warn you though, if you use it around your other friends who know about this opener, your friends might start laughing sparodically every time you open your mouth with “I’m curious…”. 

And that’s when you change the line from “I’m curious…” to “I’m wondering…” ^^

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