Iron man was awesome. Tony Stark was the ultimate alpha: confident, funny, slightly sarcastic and focused only on what he wants and nothing else… truly a character who is confident without being arrogant or unlikeable, just the confidence that come from knowing you have the tools and the skills to get though pretty much anything life throws at you.

I notice that whenever I tell you about new thing’s I’ve read or seminars I have seen you at, you always explain the similarities (such as at the Jeffy seminar where you were explaining how he was talking about non-reactive behavior and alpha-nice ways of treating others). So many people use the same names to describe pretty much the same things.

I have made great strides, personally, over not overthinking things. Some things, I still overthink (dating is one prime example) but I used to overthink everything. It was like a war plan, and the woman was my enemy as I would plot four moves ahead.

Obviously, that didn’t work so well. I think for most the problem is not overthinking, but maybe overthinking when things are not going their way.

I know if I am having a fun interaction with a girl I have no thoughts of tactics or ideas or anything, I am just in the moment. Some of my greatest interactions have come this way. When I approach a girl who is initially stand-offish or somehow disinterested, that’s when I tend to go back into my own head and figure out what to do and how to fix it.

Again, great post!
 
 

I really enjoyed my time with you too.  You have a very warm, positive and fun-loving vibe to yourself, which will take you far. Best of all, you are curious about other people and you LISTEN.

I’m not sure how you want me to answer your questions.  I “found” my personality by learning to express myself better. I needed to let myself out more without any form of censoring or editing ;p

When I realized that I had a lot of good things going on for myself and that I just had to let people see it, everything clicked.  I wasn’t afraid anymore… of anything or anyone.

In regards to the ”why not?” and “so what?” questions that I use, I want you to know that they are only used when you start doubting yourself. 

I don’t want people to overthink their emotions.  I want them to ACT on things… and that’s when those questions come in handy.

However, when you are learning something and trying to understand the underlying meaning of things, asking “why” is a perfectly legitimate question.  But as usual, don’t overanalyze or overthink it.

As I wrote in this post, focus on the right things (aka the big picture).  When you focus on things that matter, sometimes the “why” becomes irrelevant.