I’ve always wondered why it is so hard for people to be naked.

Are people afraid of nakedness, or are they afraid of being vulnerable?

Are we too critical of our own self-image? Can we not accept seeing ourselves “as is” with no pretentions?

Why do some women insist on being intimate with a man only in darkness?

Why are men so afraid of other men’s bodies?

I find this entire “naked” business very funny.

When you go to the beach in Europe, men and women of all ages wear skimpy outfits. Imagine grandpa in a speedo with his flabby gut hanging out. Imagine the woman with saggy boobs walking topless. There’s skin showing everywhere. It’s not always pretty but over there, it’s not a big deal.

Here, in the U.S., someone would call out foul play and indecency.

Ewwww… Gross!

What’s so gross about a human body?

Why are YOU not comfortable with nakedness?

More importantly, are YOU comfortable with YOUR OWN nakedness?

I see it a lot in the pickup/dating industry. There are a lot of guys (and girls for that matter) with insecurities. They aren’t comfortable with themselves. They aren’t happy with who they are. They aren’t happy with how they look. They aren’t happy with their lives and they look for that external validation to tell them that they are okay, that someone loves them.

They look for that external validation by chasing money, by chasing unhealthy relationships, by chasing sex, by chasing empty dreams, etc and that’s why they can’t meet and connect with someone of the opposite sex.

That’s why they can’t get laid.

I was there. I understand. I was confused.

Being naked is the epitome of being comfortable with yourself. When you can look at yourself in the mirror - naked and vulnerable - without the urge of looking away, you know you have learned to accept yourself.

When you can be naked in front of other people, without fears or doubts about your body image, you know you have learned to be unafraid of judgment. You have learned self love.

To me, being naked and vulnerable was hard.

There was always something wrong with me. I’m too skinny. I look tired. I don’t have the right clothes. I don’t have the right living situation. I don’t make the money that I want yet.

But I had to learn that it’s okay for me to be all these things. It’s okay for me to be vulnerable. It’s okay for me to not always be at my best.

When naked, you feel vulnerable. You become afraid. You have nothing to protect you. You have no armor. People can see you “as is,” just the way you are, just the way you were intended to be.

You feel uneasy.

What if that man or woman doesn’t like what they see when you are naked and vulnerable? What if they walk away?

Would you feel ashamed? Would you feel embarrassed that you put yourself out there for nothing?

Don’t be. It’s good for you to be vulnerable.

It’s irrealistic for you to always be the superhero with nothing but strength and power. People, even more so women, want to connect with a real genuine person.

If you have nothing but good to show to women, you aren’t real. You are a mirage in the desert. You are an illusion. The fantasy that you are may appeal to someone in the short term but eventually, even the best mirage fades away.

It’s okay to be vulnerable. It’s okay to be naked.

Accept and embrace the feeling. Do it in small steps at first if you don’t like the feeling. Eventually, it will make you more confident. It makes you more attractive.

You can start by sleeping naked in your bed.

You can try chilling in your house naked.

You can attempt a naked hike.

It doesn’t matter what you do to push your comfort level limits.

You have to learn to accept your sexual side. Don’t deny the animalistic side in you. Own your body proudly.

To me, being naked is a metaphor for shedding all insecurities. Don’t be afraid of putting yourself on the line when meeting someone. You are who you are, the good AND the bad. The better you convey and express your personality out without shame, the more people can relate to you and the more they feel attracted to you.

Emotionally, we are all the same.

We want to see ourselves in others. We want to know that we aren’t the only ones who are like us.

So don’t hide your vulnerable side.

I don’t mean to imply that you should showcase your weaknesses openly to people but show people that you aren’t always the big badass. You aren’t always strong. You aren’t always perfect.

You are human.

THAT is attractive and in the long run, you will be happier.

In the following podcast, Yakub, Rey and I share with you one of our recent crazy nightly adventures. We decided on a whim to take a walk on the beach naked. Three guys, no clothes, baring themselves for the world to see.

It was scary. We felt uneasy but we didn’t really think about it when we decided to do it. It was a spur of the moment thing and no, we aren’t gay.

We just wanted to push ourselves out of our comfort zones.

We wanted to make Memorial Day weekend truly memorable

It wasn’t until we were fully naked that it hit me: 

Man, we could get arrested for indecent exposure right now!

I don’t know if any of you guys are courageous enough to do what we did. I dare you.

But no matter what, it was fun.

It was very liberating experience.

Enjoy!

 

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