Comments on: What’s Wrong With PUA Methods? http://www.kissntale.com/2009/02/03/whats-wrong-with-pua-methods/ Your Social and Dating Life Uncovered Thu, 02 Feb 2012 11:20:04 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Khiem http://www.kissntale.com/2009/02/03/whats-wrong-with-pua-methods/comment-page-1/#comment-13542 Khiem Mon, 08 Feb 2010 23:04:49 +0000 http://www.kissntale.com/?p=479#comment-13542 <p>Alex.</p> <p>I don't believe all PUA stuff is bad... but I was pointing out where PUA teaching is lacking.</p> <p>I agree with you that men needs to learn to be more assertive.  If learning a set of techniques help you get that "assertiveness" to be able to lead, good for you!</p> <p>From being immersed in this community long enough, I personally believe that men need to learn to trust themselves more... including loving themselves more.</p> <p>Learning a set of techniques doesn't necessarily do that.  It gives you performance confidence... but it doesn't necessarily give you REAL confidence.</p> <p>Real confidence to me... is how comfortable and how accepting you are of yourself.  Once you are, whatever you say, you own and THAT is attractive.</p> <p>As far as me telling you to learn how to feel more... well, it's kind of self-explanatory.  Overall, men are more logic driven... so learning techniques is a good way to learn how to interact with women.</p> <p>However, if you learn to understand women from their emotional perspective, you can bypass a lot of "techniques" because now you learn to communicate on their level.</p> <p>Did I say that you need to be an emotional wussy?  No!  I just said to learn to communicate in ways they can relate to... coming from your own personal place of power.</p> Alex.

I don’t believe all PUA stuff is bad… but I was pointing out where PUA teaching is lacking.

I agree with you that men needs to learn to be more assertive.  If learning a set of techniques help you get that “assertiveness” to be able to lead, good for you!

From being immersed in this community long enough, I personally believe that men need to learn to trust themselves more… including loving themselves more.

Learning a set of techniques doesn’t necessarily do that.  It gives you performance confidence… but it doesn’t necessarily give you REAL confidence.

Real confidence to me… is how comfortable and how accepting you are of yourself.  Once you are, whatever you say, you own and THAT is attractive.

As far as me telling you to learn how to feel more… well, it’s kind of self-explanatory.  Overall, men are more logic driven… so learning techniques is a good way to learn how to interact with women.

However, if you learn to understand women from their emotional perspective, you can bypass a lot of “techniques” because now you learn to communicate on their level.

Did I say that you need to be an emotional wussy?  No!  I just said to learn to communicate in ways they can relate to… coming from your own personal place of power.

]]> By: alex http://www.kissntale.com/2009/02/03/whats-wrong-with-pua-methods/comment-page-1/#comment-13460 alex Fri, 05 Feb 2010 05:21:01 +0000 http://www.kissntale.com/?p=479#comment-13460 Wel I am sorry, but I was studying my issues with women (not that i was bad with them) but we have to admit we all make compromises. And before finding those PUA guides that you say are not so right, I did read TONS! of articles like yours and what you say here is just general stuff like..learning how to feel women..ok and? Thos peopla PUA guys they break it down for average JOE and sometimes their techniques does not work because you have to have another things going like to be in the STATE...to be confident..that day..one technique can work...and anyway they do not TEACH LINES!! They teach a technique! They teach you a way in which women brain process....is one way to say...DO you wanna dance with me PLEASE!!,,,and something else...: Come on! Please..dance with me baby!...The words is yours...is just a style of course you can say: Let's dance! But I think you got my point...is not that I disagree with you..is very nice you believe in what you do! Is great! But I was there and I lost ton of time with materials like this one. Wel not quite your is in between women love stuff and PUA stuff somewhere like right in the middle.   We all assume love is something wonderfull romantic...is for a man when HE is in love and it stays..but for a woman..it is really true that is just a FEELING..that in 2 days if you do wrong things is gone...that's why couplea dissolve and..people do not see each other..because of women! well because of the man that make normal things NICE..and drive women away..I mean extremely nice wussy things....not because of MEN! The Man is 80% body attracted and sex..women is 80% feeling. So when you say all those  things is just not helping the people that really need it like i was 4 years ago. I had no clue where to go.. Basically in everything you have to BE ASSERTIVE..and if you do not know what's going on you are lost. PUA guys show to guys that did not had the chance of learning..for whatever reasons...or jus guys that were like younger to marry a girl..and then LEFT THEM and now they have no clue why? Well...abd that's why are a lot of WOMEN that are the BOSS in so many stupid marriages.....pitty reallly. Anyway good luck and I respect a person that is saying somthing wrong but with confidence in it than one that is changing..by the wind. Cheers! and Tequila! or maybe you think this is childish too?;) Wel I am sorry, but I was studying my issues with women (not that i was bad with them) but we have to admit we all make compromises. And before finding those PUA guides that you say are not so right, I did read TONS! of articles like yours and what you say here is just general stuff like..learning how to feel women..ok and? Thos peopla PUA guys they break it down for average JOE and sometimes their techniques does not work because you have to have another things going like to be in the STATE…to be confident..that day..one technique can work…and anyway they do not TEACH LINES!! They teach a technique! They teach you a way in which women brain process….is one way to say…DO you wanna dance with me PLEASE!!,,,and something else…: Come on! Please..dance with me baby!…The words is yours…is just a style of course you can say: Let’s dance! But I think you got my point…is not that I disagree with you..is very nice you believe in what you do! Is great! But I was there and I lost ton of time with materials like this one. Wel not quite your is in between women love stuff and PUA stuff somewhere like right in the middle.   We all assume love is something wonderfull romantic…is for a man when HE is in love and it stays..but for a woman..it is really true that is just a FEELING..that in 2 days if you do wrong things is gone…that’s why couplea dissolve and..people do not see each other..because of women! well because of the man that make normal things NICE..and drive women away..I mean extremely nice wussy things….not because of MEN! The Man is 80% body attracted and sex..women is 80% feeling. So when you say all those  things is just not helping the people that really need it like i was 4 years ago. I had no clue where to go.. Basically in everything you have to BE ASSERTIVE..and if you do not know what’s going on you are lost. PUA guys show to guys that did not had the chance of learning..for whatever reasons…or jus guys that were like younger to marry a girl..and then LEFT THEM and now they have no clue why? Well…abd that’s why are a lot of WOMEN that are the BOSS in so many stupid marriages…..pitty reallly. Anyway good luck and I respect a person that is saying somthing wrong but with confidence in it than one that is changing..by the wind. Cheers! and Tequila! or maybe you think this is childish too?;)

]]> By: How To Get A Girlfriend http://www.kissntale.com/2009/02/03/whats-wrong-with-pua-methods/comment-page-1/#comment-7483 How To Get A Girlfriend Wed, 20 May 2009 12:03:09 +0000 http://www.kissntale.com/?p=479#comment-7483 yeah, I agree. There's a lot wrong with the typical pua methods. Going natural is much better for you in the long run. yeah, I agree. There’s a lot wrong with the typical pua methods.

Going natural is much better for you in the long run.

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