Before I met David Wygant, I was pretty well versed in most Pickup Artist teachings.

So… when I finally started hanging out with him, I couldn’t wait to see how his style was similar or different from all the other PUAs I’ve met before!

You can only imagine how stoked I was to see the unofficial inspiration for Hitch live his life and interact with people.

Every time I came back from hanging out with him, I remember feeling good about myself.  I felt energized… totally empowered to be whoever I wanted to be.  The interesting thing was… even after hanging out with him a few times, I couldn’t put a finger on what exactly he taught.

Unlike what you learn in a bootcamp with a pickup company, David doesn’t teach any specific techniques. He doesn’t tell you to do A, or B, or C.

Instead, he spends a lot of time talking to you about you… and then… about himself.  He starts by asking you where you are from, what do you do, what do you like to do.  How were your previous relationships?  How is your dad or your mom?  Even though you may just have met him, , you’ll end up sharing with him some very personal stories.  You’ll end up telling him your hopes, your dreams, your goals, your struggles.

It all feels very natural.  He feels like a good friend.

In return, he’ll share with you his own struggles, what he has learned about women, the insights he got from his own failures with women.  If you are lucky, he may even share with you how he lost his virginity.  Talking to him feels like you are talking to the older brother you never had… or a really really cool uncle.

As you talk to him, you’ll notice that there’s a some sort of “bad boy” serenity to the way he carries himself.  When he talks about his struggles, he doesn’t seem bummed about them.   He acknowledges his down moments but never for a minute do you sense that he feels bad about them.  He learns and he moves on, and for that, you can’t help but respect and admire him.

He walks you around the city and shows you how he talks to people, how he engages them in a conversation.  Everything feels very free flow. Everything is done out and about.  There’s no classroom time.

I remember on the first bootcamp I went on with him, I kept on wondering what the agenda of the day was going to be like.  David doesn’t have a set curriculum.  You never quite know what the next lesson is going to be about… but somehow, you know you are still learning something… something that you’ll realize later is more powerful than what you could ever learn in a classroom.

So it’s interesting for me today… to work alongside him and answer prospective client’s questions who ask me:  so what’s the difference between PUA and David Wygant?

It’s so hard to describe.  How do you describe something that is not clearly defined?  How do you describe that what we teach is how to live your life more aware of yourself, more aware of your surroundings, more aware of people around you?  How do you tell someone that we teach you how to live more confidently, more decisively, more connected with everything around you?

“Fuck everything.” It’s your life after all!

You really can’t learn that in a classroom.  We have to show you.

But some people are still going to ask me:  what’s the difference between PUA and David Wygant’s teachings?

I’m going to copy paste my response to someone who asked me that very same question yesterday on chat.

DW is focused on building your social lifestyle… from which you can create attraction and social momentum.  From that social momentum, you can pick and choose the girls you want to date.

DW is about focusing on yourself because when you focus on your life, on what you want, on being in tune with yourself… with your feelings, with your emotions, with your desires… and you learn to be so comfortable with them that you can express them without fears to someone then attraction happens automatically.

It’s about allowing the women to see you as you are, to see you as your own definition of your powerful self because you are proud of yourself.  You are proud of your past experiences, of your failures, of your achievements.  You are your own man, both in strengths and vulnerabilities.

PUAs are more focused on doing what’s right to get the woman.  Many of them are focused on making you tailor to the woman’s perceived notion of what’s attractive… whereas DW is about you (re-)defining for yourself what is attractive about you and letting the woman understand and see that.

PUAs see interactions with women as a set of techniques or phases.

DW is about understanding that people are emotional beings.  Real and deep attraction happens when you understand how people feel and how you can connect, lead and relate to them on that level.  However, you can only do that if you are yourself in touch with your own feelings.

PUAs try to figure out and explain interactions with women through logic.

DW is about understanding your role as a man, understanding who you are at your core, understanding who she is as a woman… and owning the fact that you can be yourself in front of her… from a position of personal power, of self respect and love.

That’s the difference.

If you want to learn more about David Wygant and what I teach on bootcamps with him, go check out his blog.  You can also purchase and listen to his Men’s Mastery Series which will go through everything you need to know from A to Z on how you can be a powerfully attractive man for woman.  Every one of our clients start with that audio program.

If you want some live regular feedback but aren’t ready for a bootcamp, the membership site is the closest you’ll get to having your own private coach who’ll just walk you through every stage of how you can become socially more powerful and attractive.

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