I can’t remember ever feeling this in my life.

Have I ever felt not good enough for a girl?  Sure!  But to actually acknowledge that someone is out of my league, never!

I just watched the movie of the same title last week and by the end of the movie, I started calling my girlfriend “Molly”.

“Molly baby, you are totally out of my league.  I have no idea how I got you!  I totally had to hope that you were imperfect in some ways so I could believe I could be with you,” I said to her in a sarcastic tone.

She hit my arm, rolling her eyes and laughing at the same time.

If you haven’t seen the movie yet, I highly recommend it.  You’ll get a good laugh.  Maybe you’ll even see yourself in that movie but truth is… isn’t that kinda sad?

How many of you actually feels this pain, this void in your soul… telling you that you aren’t good enough when you see a woman you are attracted to?  How many of you truly believe that you aren’t worthy of love, worthy of attention?

How many of you actually rank her on a scale of “desirability factor” and compare yourself to that number?

Why?!?!??!?

You got to love yourself before someone else can truly love you.  It starts with your mindset.  How do you truly truly truly feel about yourself?

The more I live, the more I realize how much life is a mirror.  Life will give you exactly what you feel you are worth, not more, not less.  You’ll get exactly what you put effort into.  You’ll get what you’ve earned.

Imagine my surprise when last Saturday, during the David Wygant’s “Attract Her Tonight, Impress Her For Life” event, I saw plenty of hands raise up after Adam asked:  ”How many are here because you feel she’s out of your league.”

It boggles my mind now.

I wish all of you could really recognize that you are all 10s!

I meet different types of people all the time when I coach.  Everyone of you is a 10.  Some of you have to present yourself  a little bit better than others, some of you have to talk a bit louder… but you all have so much potential in you, so much greatness, so much uniqueness.  Everyone of you is a 10.  You just need to believe.

You just need to uncover the 10 inside of you so that everyone else can see it too!

It’s funny… I remember a few years back when I was learning about this whole attraction business thing, I’d feel this constant doubt in my mind of “Does she really like me?”.  From as little as I remember, when a buddy of mine would tell me a girl was into me or how she’s all over me, I’d tell him:  ”Naaa man…. it’s nothing like that.”

In retrospect, I was the one sabotaging myself.  I didn’t believe I was worth her attention.  So all this time when I thought nobody liked me, I’ve actually had plenty of girls wanting me but because I was completely blind to it, I didn’t make anything of it.  I didn’t make anything happen.

A lot of you guys still doubt yourself too much.  You are like me a few years back.  Even when someone gives you a compliment, your mind probably say “Naaaa, she’s just saying that to be nice.” or “Naaaa, she doesn’t mean it”.

Looking back, I still can’t believe how f*cked up that was of me to think that.  Why couldn’t I just accept a simple compliment?  I thought I was just being modest… but honestly, was I really being humble?

Look around!  Is there really no one who likes you?  Is there really no one who’s giving you a little bit of attention?  And if there is someone, why aren’t you making it happen?  Is it because you are rejecting yourself… not really rejecting her?

Do you know the difference between a guy who knows he’s attractive versus a guy who doesn’t think he’s attractive (besides the mindset)?  It’s the fact that the guy who’s attractive is constantly looking for opportunities around him to reinforce that belief.  He’s constantly seeing opportunities and evidence of why people like him… and why things are going to happen.

So are you really paying attention to all the opportunities around you?  Learn to see them!  And if you are like me from a few years back and can’t take a compliment. STOP!  Learn to say “thank you.”

If you’ve missed David Wygant’s “Attract Her Tonight, Impress Her Forever” event this past March, you don’t have to feel let down.  We have an upcoming bootcamp on the weekend of April 9-11 in LA for anyone of you who’re ready to start seeing and seizing opportunities in your daily life to create romance.

Just email me or David for more info!

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