previous post
| Are you 3-D? |
| Posted by Khiem in: Articles |
There’s a huge craze right now sweeping across the nation.
Every movie coming out is in 3-D. Even Clash of the Titans got the 3-D treatment and no matter how much you love Gemma Arterton as Io or Alexa Davalos as Andromeda, the 3-D treatment couldn’t save that movie from making me any more emotionally engaged to the characters or the story.
That movie made no sense whatsoever! Seriously… giant scorpions used as donkeys? Why do they move so slow when used as mode of transportation… when 3 shots before that, they were able to rush frantically towards Perseus with killing fervor? And don’t get me started on Pegasus, the supposedly never tamed before mystical flying horse. Why did Pegasus give himself up to Perseus? Perseus didn’t even have to do anything for Pegasus to accept him as his master!!!
I watched the movie completely amused by the special effects but scratching my head wondering if the movie couldn’t be more appropriately retitled ”Crash of the Titans.”
Anyhow, enough ranting. What does 3-D movies have to do with dating? Well… here’s my question for you today: how 3-D are you? Are you a one dimensional or do you consider yourself multi-dimensional? Do you have multiple interests from which you can have conversations on or are you just knowledgeable in one domain only?
In the work environment, the more specialized you are, the more of an expert you are perceived as and the better you get paid. In the corporate world, you advance faster if you have an MBA. In the medical world, you get paid most if you are the surgeon.
But what about… in dating? Does being specialized breeds more success in your ability to find the right person to love?
I remember college when I was big in competitive online gaming, all I could talk about was Counter-Strike. My world revolved around it! My friends played it, I played it… and anyone I met would eventually play it. I spent so much time on it!!! Call it passion, call it addiction, it was the breathing fire of my life.
I had a team I had to lead. I had to train my teammates on in-game strategies that would help us win competitions. I had to find teams to scrimmage with. I had to maintain the team brand with the outside world. I had so many things to do… but all related to Counter-Strike. In some ways, I was running my own little Counter-strike business.
Sadly, that didn’t help me with the ladies.
Unless conversations were steered towards Counter-Strike related topics, I had very little to say. Don’t get me wrong, I had an interest in traveling, I had an interest in innovative leadership theories (Harvard Business Review articles anyone?)… but I didn’t have enough experience to have a lot to say about them.
Looking back, I was a terrible conversationalist. Worse, I’d be a terrible date.
This is why today, I want to challenge you. If you are finding yourself not being very good at dating, ask yourself… does your world only revolve around ONE thing?
If it does, it’s time for you to expand your horizon.
The first skill you need to learn in dating is how to connect with people. Guess what? If you can only talk about one thing, how can you connect with the world at large?
Unless you want to date only one type of person… who’s into the same thing you are… you better be able to relate to people on a variety of levels. Every person is different. Some people are into sports, some others into music and many more into fashion, dance, cars, TV, science, electronics or nutrition…
Can you have meaningful conversation with people on any topic that may pop up?
This is something that I stress a lot during coaching. Have an opinion on things. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know a lot just yet… but at least, be curious about things… and then learn to talk about things.
One of the key reasons why I find myself being able to connect with a lot of people now is because I decided to expose myself to anything and everything. I wanted to learn how to dance so I did that. I wanted to sky dive so I did that. I wanted to understand the bar scene so I did that. Whatever it is that you like, go put yourself out there.
I’ll be upfront. One of the things I hate the most about aspiring Pickup Artists is that they are so one dimensional. They spend all their waking hours learning about seduction, evolutionary psychology, body language, indicators of interests. That’s all great knowledge but why do you have to be so scientific and technical about it?
Do you have a life outside of pick-up?
Meeting people, dating people is an emotional thing. Can YOU connect and relate to people on an emotional level? If a woman can’t get intrigued by you as a friend, do you really think she’ll want to sleep with you?
If you want to learn more, head over to www.davidwygant.com. David posts a blog every day on dating, sex and relationship topics. You can also send me an email if you are interested in coaching or just want to ask a quick question on your dating situation.
Loading ...--
Loading ...
