Please don’t tell my girlfriend… but I’ve cheated on her.

I’m so ashamed to say… but I couldn’t help it.  It was so hard for me to resist.  How can you say no to a woman like Miranda?

She’s so sexy in her tight white and black outfit!

When she walks around next to me, my mind just wanders.  When she runs around blasting through enemy territory covering my ass, she makes my heart beat faster.  Thump, thump, thump…

Just look at her!  How can I resist her fierce, confident demeanor?  After all, she WAS designed to be the perfect woman!

In some ways, she even looks like my girlfriend…

Admit it, you are a geek at heart.

Football season is over.  Valentine’s Day just passed around the corner (but that was such “not a guy thing” to get excited over).  So what’s to keep a man busy until baseball or baskteball season start?

Mass Effect 2 of course!  For the XBox 360 and PC.  In this Sci Fi role playing game, you assume the role of Commander Shepard, soldier extraordinaire on a mission to save humanity from evil evil Collector and Reaper aliens.

More importantly, you get to flirt with a bunch of beautiful human and alien females of your choice.  Hmmm… I get to play with big guns AND flirt with women, what’s not to like?

Just have your pick:  M-15 Vindicator assault rifle, M-98 Widow sniper rifle, Miranda Lawson the fierce, M-300 Claymore shotgun, Jack the psycho bitch, M-6 Carnifex Hand Cannon pistol, Kelly Chambers the naive, Samara the rightous, M-4 Shuriken machine pistol, Tali’Zorah the shy nerd, Geth pulse rifle or Morinth the dangerous…

Oops, I think I just mixed my women with my guns again.

After spending a week exploring and saving the galaxy so that you can all have better lives, I had to ponder:  is this what young men have come to:  romancing virtual girls and sexing them on our computer screen?  Is this the next generation of soft core porn?

What does Mass Effect 2 really teach us when it comes to flirting and “scoring” with the opposite sex?

For goodness’ sake,  let’s be honest, how many of you guys rubbed one out as you watched the lovely “romance” scene play out with the lady or man of your choice?

Unfortunately for you, if you were planning on getting yourself a copy of the game just so that you can go straight into making your virtual sexual fantasy a reality, your journey won’t be easy.  Even in the game, these women (or men for that matter, in case you picked to be a female Shepard at the beginning of the game) won’t be throwing themselves at you anytime soon.

When it comes to romance, the developers of Mass Effect 2 got it right.  Even a hero needs to know how to flirt.

So what can you learn from the game about attracting love into your life? (more…)

Not long ago, I went back to Texas for my college roommate’s wedding.

One of my favorite things to do when I meet couples is to ask them how they met.  Every time I hear their stories, I feel enchanted.  The way they tell their stories is always so vivid!  They remember every detail as if it was yesterday and share it with such enthusiasm and passion that you can’t help but smile.

When I hear excitement in their story from both the man and the woman, that’s when I know their marriage will probably last.

However, I’ve always been curious about a much bigger question.  After you’ve been dating someone for a while, how do you know if he or she is the one?

How do you know it’s time for you to take it to the next level?

The Seduction Community never really addresses relationship questions.  They only teach you how to meet and attract the girl… but what do you do after that?  How do you know if someone is good for you?  How do you maintain the relationship?

Is marriage just the natural progression of “we’ve been together for a while so it just felt right for us to get married” or is it more about “I absolutely love this person and can’t imagine living and growing with someone else”?

Every time I’ve asked one of my friends who recently got married that question, I get a different answer.

Seriously, how do you know?

For once, I think I have my own answer.

You see, I have a friend who’s been dating a guy for at least 5 years now… maybe longer.  She just bought a house and is planning on allowing her boyfriend to move in with her.  From what I hear, she has a lot of doubts about the future of her relationship with him.

After moving in with him for less than a week, she’s discovering sides of him that she’s never known… for example, she’s discovered how he’s very obsessive about making everything match in the house… or how he wants things a certain way.

When I heard that, I couldn’t help myself get frustrated:  how could you not know that about him?  You’ve been dating him for 5+ years!

However, my blog today is not about whether or not you truly know a person after an x amount of time.  It’s about knowing if he or she is the one.

And let me tell you, looking back at my friend, I don’t recall her ever being truly excited about him.  Every time I asked about her relationship, she always tells me it’s going alright or good… but there was always something seemingly missing.  He always had something that was not good enough for her.

That’s when it dawned on me.

Listen to your feelings more.

Listen to your heart more.

Knowing if someone is the one is not about logic.  It’s a feeling, it’s almost an urge.

It really doesn’t matter how long you’ve been dating someone to know if he or she is the one.  For my friend in question, she’s giving herself more time to figure out if he’s the one by letting her boyfriend move in with her… but the reality is… it doesn’t matter how long she’s been with him.

When you think of that person today, do you feel excited about him or her every day?

When you think of a future together, do you care about whether or not he/she is in the picture?

When you look at the past together, do you look at it with fondness and gratefulness?

When you think of that person romantically and sexually, does your mind wander into wild happy naughty la la land?

All in all, do you feel at the same time cherished and grateful to have that person in your life?

I guess the saying is right.  ”You’ll know when you find him or her”.

So let me ask you, how do you know if he or she is the one?

If you have been dating someone for a long time, is your relationship moving forward towards something or are you just wasting time because you are comfortable with each other?

There’s one thing we can’t teach you at David Wygant, it’s getting that feeling.  But we CAN teach you to be honest with yourself, to be genuine, to be powerful and attractive to people… so that when you do meet the one, you’ll know.

What is the funniest story you’ve ever heard?

I thought I heard it all…  from weird, to funny, to sad to inpsiring but I got to say, my clients sure know how to keep me entertained.  This one definitely takes the cake!

So here I am, talking to a former bootcamp client on the phone.  He’s updating me on his progress since he took coaching with us a few months back.

When he came to us, he was successful in his career but like many men, he wanted higher quality women in his life.

First thing I taught him was to not be so funny.  I know I know… women say they like a man with a sense of humor… but there’s a difference between being funny like a clown and just being fun.

I prefer my clients to be fun, not funny.

If a woman was to laugh, I’d rather have her laugh because of the great chemistry and tension you two share rather than because you used the latest joke or tease on her.

With him, he was TOO funny.  He would turn many regular conversations into something humorous.  Being funny was good for the first 5 minutes but after that, it distracted women from actually connecting with him on a more real and genuine level.

The second thing I taught him was to develop the lover side of him.  The way he spoke was too platonic, not flirty enough, not sensual/sexy enough.  I told him to work on his voice and speak with a more sexually mischievous undertone.  I also told him to work on his eye contact and smile.

At their core, women respond to what they feel when they are with you.  They choose to go out with you if they feel you are an exciting man.

If the first thing that comes out of their mouth when they think of you is “nice guy,” then you aren’t doing a good job showing your personality.

You want to be memorable!

So based on these 2 suggestions alone, my client started to have an abundance of dates.  Women were just responding to him much more positively than before and going on dates with them was becoming simpler and simpler every day for him.

He was having a blast, but little did he know that the most fun part of dating is that you never know where things may end.  So here comes our story.  Today’s modern tale of romance starts on the fourth date, with a girl he met at a friend’s wedding.

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