I’ve always wondered why it is so hard for people to be naked.

Are people afraid of nakedness, or are they afraid of being vulnerable?

Are we too critical of our own self-image? Can we not accept seeing ourselves “as is” with no pretentions?

Why do some women insist on being intimate with a man only in darkness?

Why are men so afraid of other men’s bodies?

I find this entire “naked” business very funny.

When you go to the beach in Europe, men and women of all ages wear skimpy outfits. Imagine grandpa in a speedo with his flabby gut hanging out. Imagine the woman with saggy boobs walking topless. There’s skin showing everywhere. It’s not always pretty but over there, it’s not a big deal.

Here, in the U.S., someone would call out foul play and indecency.

Ewwww… Gross!

What’s so gross about a human body?

Why are YOU not comfortable with nakedness?

More importantly, are YOU comfortable with YOUR OWN nakedness?

I see it a lot in the pickup/dating industry. There are a lot of guys (and girls for that matter) with insecurities. They aren’t comfortable with themselves. They aren’t happy with who they are. They aren’t happy with how they look. They aren’t happy with their lives and they look for that external validation to tell them that they are okay, that someone loves them.

They look for that external validation by chasing money, by chasing unhealthy relationships, by chasing sex, by chasing empty dreams, etc and that’s why they can’t meet and connect with someone of the opposite sex.

That’s why they can’t get laid.

I was there. I understand. I was confused.

Being naked is the epitome of being comfortable with yourself. When you can look at yourself in the mirror - naked and vulnerable - without the urge of looking away, (more…)

 

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Last Monday, I was walking with some friends to the movie theatre to watch Iron Man.

If you guys like action or superhero movies, go watch it! It was kick ass!!!

On the way there, the girl asked:

Man… why is it so cold tonight? Brrr…

I looked at her funny and said:

It always makes me laugh when someone wonders why the weather is a certain way. It just is. Why does it matter if it’s cold or hot? It’s not like you can do anything about it. [grin]

She looked at me completely confused while her boyfriend cracked up hysterically.

Seriously… Sometimes, I think people just like to ask the most worthless questions and by doing so, they don’t realize how much mental energy they waste on things that don’t matter or on things they can’t do anything about.

A lot of guys in the Seduction Community do just that.

They focus on the wrong things. They ask the wrong questions. Therefore, they get sidetracked by things that don’t matter. Then they get frustrated that they don’t progress faster.

And sometimes… eventually, they give up.

You never fail when you give it your all…
because you learned something from the experience.

Last Sunday, a guy asked me what he could write in his first email to the woman he just met a few days beforehand.

As usual, I asked him for more background information. What do you know about her? What have you done with her so far? What do you want to say or convey to her? Where do you want to lead her?… etc.

Based on what he gave me, I suggested a cool opening topic he could use to start his email so that she would feel the desire to respond to him but as he told me more, something didn’t click.

He told me the girl was from the UK and was visiting LA. She’d soon leave to visit Las Vegas, then San Francisco before returning to London. I asked him:

So when are you going to see her?

To which he replied:

I don’t know.

So I told him:

So why does it matter what you are going to say in your email?!? You aren’t even going to be able to see her!!!

When you are learning something, make sure you ask the right questions. Focus on the right things and you’ll learn a lot faster.

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I’ll be honest. I wasn’t very good in college when it came to meeting the ladies. 

I was your typical nice guy.  I didn’t have the confidence nor the edginess to really attract them sexually. 

Classes and school clubs were great to meet them but beyond that, I didn’t know what to do.  

Worse of all, I was your avid video gamer back then.  All I knew was study, play Counter-Strike, sleep and eat… along with the occasional booze party.  Out of that list, studying was the most optional activity.

Looking back, I don’t have any real regrets because I learned so much about myself through my “playing video games for competition” phase.  As funny as it sounds, I did learn a lot about leadership and how to gain trust with people because all my social interactions were internet based. 

However, if I had to do it all over again, I’d take more opportunities to enjoy the college social scene.  How often would you find yourself in a highly concentrated breeding ground filled with hot, sexy, beautiful, young women who are open to “have fun” while in school?

Yeaaaaa…  That’s what I thought.  I can see you grinning from ear to ear right now.

College is an interesting time for most of young Americans.  That’s the time when you can still go out and mess up without getting too much in trouble.  So take advantage of it!  Interestingly, a lot of the young aspring Pick-Up Artists (PUAs) I’ve met in Los Angeles are college-aged.  I see them go out a lot and “practice” but I think they aren’t taking advantage enough of their college social scene.

They are afraid that they will get burned by practicing pickup in their college social circles.  They’re right!  You can’t do newbie drills or practice random lines in a college setting.  You also can’t focus ONLY on pickup.  That’d be total social suicide… unless you truly understand how to navigate that social scene and know what to focus on.

Having lots of girls in your life, no matter what you do, is a LIFESTYLE.

If I was in school again, I’d want to create that lifestyle with the help of Mark Redman’s Conquer Your Campus e-book in my backpack. 

Yep, forget clubs and bars.  Do you realize how many women are DYING to meet you in college?

I personally go on the UCLA campus once in a while just to watch people interact.  Every student there is in their own coma.  When’s the next test?  When’s the next project due?

If you wanted to approach, meet and talk to someone, there is no competition.  It only takes one tiny bit of courage and energy for you to take girls out of their daily routine and for you to get them completely enchanted by you.  (more…)