Finally!!!  I’m back!

My Dell laptop of 4 years died sometimes in July and man… it’s been hard not to do anything productive for a while.  

I felt I was on some sort of self-imposed vacation… and sure, it was fun but I was really starting to get the itch to write again… and more importantly, to WORK!

Unfortunately, with my laptop’s imminent death, I lost a few files.  Among other things, gone is the great podcast interview I had with Nick Sparks from The Social Man.  I’ll have to do it again, I guess.

In other news, I’m sure you guys have met my new sidekick Jack.  I recently gave him a nickname:  Jack Mack.  Everywhere we go, when he sees someone cute, he’ll disappear and I’ll find him a few minutes later making some girl laugh.  I love watching him.  If I know he’s about to approach, I can already imagine him in my head do his “James Bond walk” strolling up to the girl.

Yakub is still around.  He lives in Virginia though so it’s harder for me to just have spontaneous chats with him as inspiration for the blog.  Hopefully, he can pop in and write a few words sometimes on here.  He just came back from a month-long vacation in Bangladesh.

Right now, let’s talk about something serious.  

I have a grudge.

As a lot of you know, I’ve spent a considerable amount of time exploring what Pickup Artists (PUAs) teach men about women.  There are a lot of positive things the Seduction Community can offer to your average guy’s understanding of women but there’re also many bad, BAD habits or beliefs they teach.

It’s a well-known fact that the typical guy who enters the Seduction Community is the frustrated nice guy who hasn’t been able to get the woman of his dreams very often.  He’s seen other “bad boys” get the girl.  He’s seen his cute and hot female friends overlook him for other men.  He’s understanding, he’s considerate, he wants to please women, he’s kind and helpful yet he doesn’t get the girl.  

He just doesn’t understand what women want.  

So he gets frustrated and somehow, out of desperation, he finds the Pickup Community.

He goes from not understanding women to wanting to know EVERYTHING about women.  He learns about body language, he learns about conversational styles, he learns about flirting/banter/cocky & funny, he learns about subtle signs women give to show interest, he learns about everything he needs to know to be successful with women.

And you know what?  That’s where my beef is right now.

You don’t need to know EVERYTHING to get the girl. (more…)

Hello peeps, Jack here again.

Here’s something I’ve been practicing on lately - observing my surroundings.  

Now, on some subconscious level, we all do this everyday, everywhere we go.  

Sometimes, we just tend to not pay attention to our surroundings even though we see everything.  If you happen to be one of those people whose work requires a lot of observation skills, then your instincts are probably well honed and sharp.  

Personally, I’m not so proud of my own observation skills. Compared to a natural, I’d say I’m pretty sucky… which is why lately, I’m training to become even better at it.

Believe or not, women are much better at observing their surroundings than men are.  Biologically, they already have a wider peripheral vision than us men.  Add to that, as a man in today’s society, we really don’t have to worry much about our safety but women think about their safety all the time. Thus, this creates a tendency for men to be ignorant of their surroundings. 

I’ve hung out with Khiem and his observational skills are crazy. Based on a quick observation and sometimes with the use of an assumption, he can come up with a relevant opener in seconds.

If you haven’t noticed, “naturals” (guys that are exceptionally good with women since a young age) are very proficient with their observation skills. This awareness of their surrounding/environment allows these guys to understand women on a more instinctual level.  

Good observation skills allows you more than just notice what the woman is doing or coming up with something clever to initiate a conversation with her. From what I could tell, a natural uses his observation skills to further understand a woman’s mindset. It’s as though he is observing the woman and knowing what she’s thinking about from inside her own head.  It’s as if he was standing in her own shoes.

He may not be aware that he is doing it at all but nonetheless, whatever he observes, he makes direct association in his mind of what the woman wants. 

Let’s say he sees a woman wearing a stunning silk red dress at a party. Just paying attention to that simple fact allows him to make certain assumptions on her. She could be very confident in her sexuality. She may want to stand out from other women and catch people attention tonight. With red being such an exuding color, she may be very outgoing by nature or at least she’s feeling social tonight.

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Hello everyone, my name is Jack.

I’m friends with Khiem for the past month and a half. We met after my bootcamp with theApproach.  

You might have noticed he hasn’t written anything for a while.  Well… his laptop broke last month so he’s been going nuts not being able to get his daily dose of porn - ahem… I mean… update his blog.  So in the meantime, he thought it’d be great for me to write out my own journey learning “the game” (he hates the term :p ).  

Don’t worry.  His new Macbook Pro just arrived a few days ago so he’ll be back in full force soon.  You Apple fans out there can thank me for getting him to switch.  He was going to buy a Dell if I didn’t intervene.  Phew, one more nerd saved!

I first took a workshop/bootcamp with theApproach about 2 months ago.  Their lead instructor, Sebastian Drake, taught the course himself so it was hands-on coaching from the master himself.  I learned a lot and I will probably give you guys a full report of my experience with theApproach bootcamp in another post but today, I want to write about my own realizations and experiences as I learn to become a better, more social and overly more attractive man

Growing up, I was horrible with women.  So after college, I decided to improve myself.  I wanted to be able to date the women I really wanted.

In the past 2 months after the workshop, Khiem has personally coached me.  He has taught me many underlining principles about attraction and dating which made me see clearer on what I need to improve to become better. 

Learning techniques is one thing… but the techniques don’t mean anything if you don’t know how and when to apply it.  It also doesn’t mean much if you don’t know what kind of emotional impact it has on the girl.  

One of the key thing I learned through Khiem is to pay more attention to how the woman feels emotionally.  When you make yourself aware of where she is emotionally (aka if she’s comfortable enough with you or whether she’s feeling intrigued by you… etc), you know better how and where to lead the interaction.

Let me explain this through a story of mine from this past weekend. 

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