I always love a good PUA story.

As much time as PUAs spend on learning advanced social and dating skills, they aren’t always so subtle (or good) when they are talking to women.

I can always smell them!

Last month, I went with David Wygant to the PUA Summit 2009 in Hollywood for his talk.  I knew that if I brought my girflriend, I might have to protect her from guys oogling at her… or worse, from guys trying to practice their recently learned techniques on her.  Nonetheless, I decided to take her along.

I’ve told her about the Seduction Community before.  She’s never seen anything Community related so she was pretty excited to discover what this whole movement was about.

As I arrived at the Renaissance hotel, I started scanning the room for familiar faces.  There were quite a lot more people this time around that I didn’t know.  I guess that’s what happens when I don’t actively keep in touch with people in the Community.  I definitely wasn’t familiar with some of the speakers listed on the schedule.

We entered the room quietly in the middle of Adam Lyon’s speech and sat in the back.  I love Adam!  I think the world of him.  He and his wife Amanda are the nicest people.  I wish I’d get to see them more often but as much as I like him, I didn’t like his speech as much as the other years.  As a speaker, he’s absolutely fantastic!  He always wow the crowd with his humor and stories.  What I didn’t like was his message (at least the part of the message I caught).

In his talk, he explained to the guys how you can almost guarantee success in transitioning to sex with a woman by justifying your every move… even if it didn’t completely make logical sense.  As long as you give a seemingly valid reason to why you are doing this or that with her, why you are leading her somewhere, she will follow.

From a psychological perspective, that’s pretty interesting!  It shows you that people don’t really think for themselves that much.  As long as what you are doing makes some sense and that you do it with enough conviction, people will just follow.  Honestly, it’s kind of scary to me.  It just shows me how stupid we really are as human beings, but oh well…

The reason I didn’t like his message is simple.

In my world, if you are a powerful and genuine guy who kind of embodies the lover for women, you don’t have to justify anything!  Sex with you just happens (or so that’s what women say)!  It feels like a fairy tale.  For them, being with you feels natural and right.  It just happens because you understand how women get turned on.  You understand that women love the idea of being swept away… and YOU are that guy who lets them live their own romantic comedy or sexual fantasy through you!

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This week, I got to tag along David Wygant to David DeAngelo’s “Double Your Dating:  Man Transformation” seminar.

David Wygant had a speech to do and as usual, he rocked it.  His energy is absolutely amazing when in front of an audience. 

When he gets on stage, he just gets in the zone.  He never prepares his speech.  Everything is in his head and I think that’s what makes him so good.  He knows his stuff so well that he just get into that flow state. He gets in the moment and everything comes out naturally.

For this seminar, he brought a grapefruit on stage and asked one courageous volunteer to come up.  He then explained:  “I want you to catch the grapefruit. I’m going to roll it either fast or slow.  It’s up to you to catch it.”  Without much of a warning, he then rolled the grapefruit fast towards the volunteer.  The guy missed the grapefruit completely and had to chase it down the stage.

This is what most men do wrong.  They spend their life chasing after women.

The audience went crazy with the analogy.  David moved on to talk about how men need to learn to attract women instead of chasing them.  Men need to learn to have purpose, have passion, be able to observe and listen to truly connect with women on a deeper, higher level.

I’m not going to lie.  I like working with David.  He has a very healthy lifestyle and mindset.  Sometimes, I feel he could teach a little bit more technical stuff for the guys who truly don’t get it but he doesn’t… and I know why.  He really wants guys to understand the habits and behaviors of being an attractive man.  If you “get it”, techniques don’t matter as much.

However, David is not the only dating expert I like to hang around or hear from.  There are a lot of other dating experts and gurus that teach some truly amazing things.

At the “Man Transformation” seminar, I was very happy to see Vin DiCarlo again.  He’s one of my favorite guys in the Community because his writing has always resonated with me.  He’s the guy who coined the term ”Natural Game” for the Seduction Community a few years back.

If you were to meet him, you’d think of him as a totally normal guy unlike some of the other Pick-Up Artists (PUAs) out there.  Ask him about his Star Wars collectibles collection sometimes or if you are into music, ask him about his rockstar aspirations.

Maybe I like him because I’m a Star Wars geek too.

The only difference between you and him is that he just gets laid a whole lot more than you ;p

He’s definitely a bit more of a Pick-Up Artist than a dating kinda guy but his methodoly has always been about bringing your most natural masculine behaviors out without asking you to manipulate women into liking you.  Some of his advanced techniques can definitely be misused by ill-intentioned men towards women but that’s the nature of things.  You can use any pool of knowledge for good or evil.

As I was networking with David, I didn’t realized that I completely missed Vin’s presentation.  Bummer!  I was really looking forward to hearing what he had to say.

I did get to chat with him a little bit though.  He’s releasing a new e-book called The Attraction Code which I’m pretty excited about.

He graciously sent me a copy for me to review so you can bet that I’ll be writing about it soon.  I’ve read 3/4th of the e-book already and the cool thing about Vin is that he realizes that any seduction method out there CAN work… as long as you know HOW TO THINK about attraction.

So if you want to keep yourself up-to-date on his e-book release, make sure to sign up for his VIP list right now by clicking the banner below.  He has some freebies to give away and he’ll be releasing the book to his friends and private list first.

I also got to chat a little bit with Steve Piccus.  If you don’t know him, he’s the guy behind the White Tiger Tantra DVD set.

In those videos, he teaches men how to massage a woman for optimal relaxation and blood flow so you can help her reach deeper, stronger orgasms and squirting.  I remember watching those DVDs a long time ago and wondering how Steve would be like in person.  From his long hair and cowboy/native American fashion style, I was afraid he’d be some kind of woo woo woo new age spiritual guy.

After meeting him, I can say that Steve is CRAZY!!!  He’s not insane crazy.  He’s just crazy because he’s so full of life and energy.  I was there listening to him and David Wygant speak to each other and Steve truly understands how to connect to women on a much higher level.

Steve’s 18-year old son was also present and it was interesting to watch how father and son were both so open with each other about sexuality.  So many fathers out there don’t really teach their sons anything about women.  The funniest part for me was when his son expressed his view that a lot of Pick-Up Artists (PUAs) are just “gay”.  They seemed more interested in chatting with other men than meeting women.

Now, THAT’s something to think about.  This reminds me of what Adam Lyons once said in one of his speeches: 

If you want to meet women, surround yourself with women.  Why are you going out with a bunch of dudes?

Steve Piccus is definitely a manly man.  Everything about him projects a very masculine and dominant energy.  He absolutely abhors the part of the Seduction Community that teaches men to use tricks to meet women or the part of the Community that tell guys to act or dress gay to attract women.  If you want to meet women of quality, be a man! 

Steve curses a storm when he wants to make his opinion well known.  You probably wouldn’t want him to speak if political correctness was an issue.  He’s very passionate about what he teaches and you can tell it’s important for him to have men and women connect genuinely on a spiritual and sexual level.  Just by listening to him and talking to him for a few minutes, I was just amazed at how much he knew about sensuality and health.

I sure hope David and I get to work with him in the near future.

Finally, I got to meet Brent M.  David and Brent have been friends for a long time and I’ve always heard good things about Brent.  However, I haven’t met him until a few days ago.

Brent is one of those guys who also focuses on teaching men to live an interesting lifestyle.  If you live an attractive lifestyle, women will come to you but you have to learn to let go of a lot of your fears, a lot of your outcome dependence, a lot of your insecurities.

Brent is probably one of the best dressers I’ve met in the Community.  He has a very clean yet trendy look.  He wears good jeans, very nice shoes and always sports a nice blazer/sport coat.  The way he moves is very flowing and dominant.  His image alone probably gives him a lot of attention from the kinder gender.

Besides his good fashion sense, he has long shiny hair that would make Fabio (the model for all those romance novels) jealous.  You know what?  Maybe I should nickname Brent “Fabio.”  I wonder how he’d like that.  Anyhow, I didn’t talk to him about anything significant but I know that I’d just get along with him.  There are some people you just know.  You just KNOW you’d click with them.  There’s something about their vibe that puts you at ease and makes you smile.

The “Man Transformation” seminar featured a lot of other guest speakers including Lance Mason from PU101, Mehow, Hypnotica, Grant Adams from Net2Bed, Sean Stevenson, Alex Allman (author of Revolutionary Sex) and Neil Strauss himself.  I didn’t get to hear everyone speak and I definitely didn’t talk to all of them either but it was fun for me to just SEE all these gurus in one room chatting one another up. 

There were even other major players in the industry that just came in to network.  Tyler Durden from RSD, Jae Ellis from AskRomeo and Cameron Teone from AttractWomenAnywhere were there as well.

They may be competitors when it comes to business but when you put them all in one room, they are all friends.

Wow WoW WOW!  Have you read Thundercat’s Top 10 Pick-Up Artists for 2007 and Donovan’s Top Dating Coaches of 2007?.  I’m always amused when I read those lists.  How does one determine the best Pick-Up Artists (PUAs)?  Is it by the amount or consistency one successfully get women in bed or is it by the quality of women one keeps in his life?  Is there even a difference between pick-up and dating coaches?

To me, a pick-up coach is more focused on getting you laid whereas a dating coach is more focused on helping you attract the right type(s) of women in your life and for your lifestyle.

I have selected my favorite coaches and PUAs for 2007 based on the genuineness and/or authenticity I’ve sensed in their desire to help men and in the quality of products I have experienced, reviewed or skimmed.  When possible, I will make note of the kind of contact I have had with that guru.

So without further ado, here are my favorite coaches and Pick-Up Artists for 2007:

• Favorite Dating Coach:  David Wygant
  runner-up: none

If you hang out with David like I have, you can’t help but want to hang out with him more.  David’s strongest source of charisma stems from the fact that he makes you feel energized.  After every occasion I’ve had to spend time with him, I felt empowered and ready to take over the world.

As a coach, he takes immense satisfaction in seeing guys develop the foundational social skills that would make them successful with women.  During his bootcamp, he doesn’t boggle your mind with endless theory.  Everything he teaches you is applicable immediately and it all starts with a good workout.  Yep, you’ll walk A LOT for 3 days when you take his bootcamp because you will walk everywhere to meet women in the most mundane of situations. 

Because he doesn’t use Community jargon, he also makes you feel like you are hanging out with one of your boys.  When around him, there is none of that pressure to pick-up the girl, to kiss her or to get her phone number.  Of course, you will eventually do that but it’s all about being social, meeting everyone and connecting with the people you like.  You are never at war, on the battlefield, trying to conquer the woman.  You are here to create a powerful (confident) image of yourself and let the chemistry happen.

The biggest lessons I’ve gotten from him are:  listen, make everything your playground and use momentum to create more energy in the world around you.

As a guy, David is a lot of fun.  He’s very perceptive of the kind of energy a woman projects.  It is very common for me and him to walk somewhere and chat with some women and right after we are done, he’d tell me:  “Did you sense that sexual energy from her?  OMG, she was soooo horny!” to which I’d laugh and nod.  David is a fast talker but sometimes, I wish he’d talk less… especially when answering a simple client’s question.  LOL

• Favorite PUA for developing highly attractive male behaviors and handling mutliple relationships:  Sebastian Drake
  runner-up:  Vin DiCarlo

Sebastian is one of those guys that you can’t help but respect.  He’s fairly young (24-26?) but he understands the world with a wisdom that is only acquired by someone many times his age.  Generally speaking, you’ll always find him very calm and relaxed.  It’s like he’s always aware and in control of his emotions. 

When it comes to women, he has the ability to make them contribute to his lifestyle like no one I have seen.  What appeals to me the most about Sebastian is his strong stance on ethics.  Of all the pick-up gurus I have met, he is the only one who has addressed using seduction techniques with good intentions in mind.  You are to improve the life of the woman as much as yours.

As a coach, he will have LOTS of stories to tell you about his countless adventures and you can’t help but become inspired by the possibilities that are being opened up to you.  If you wanted the lifestyle of a player who has the choice of many quality women at the same time, he’s your guy.  He will teach you a lot of high level, advanced beliefs, theory and techniques that will work wonders when you get your social skills basics down.  He gives you the “best practice” model for you to work towards but sometimes I wish, he’d give more examples of how you can make that approach work FOR YOU.  Personally, his VAC model of attraction has been the biggest influence on my early understanding of natural game.

What I learned the most from him is:  have standards to how you expect people to treat you, believe in your own attractiveness and lead like a true confident man.  Sebastian knows how to explain how to act, think and speak like a highly attractive “elite” man.

Oh… and if you get to go out with him, don’t be surprised that you or him end up with a woman in intimate situations that you would have never expected 45 minutes ago.  He knows how to keep an interaction moving forward at an incredible speed and he’s an approach machine.

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