Let me ask you.

Do you believe in yourself?

Do you believe that by the sheer fact of being a man, you can attract women?

Do you believe that attracting quality women involves things beyond using pickup lines, routines or techniques?

Do you know HOW to develop that inner strength and confidence that makes you attractive in all situations?

I just finished reading Vin DiCarlo’s new e-book The Attraction Code and I want to tell you that this is one of the best pieces of writing I have read from the Seduction Community (and I’ve read a lot!).  If you think I’m exaggerating or creating hype, then you aren’t ready to understand.

I’m going to be honest.  Most people reading his e-book are NOT going to get it (at least, not right away).  They might not even understand the deeper stuff yet either.

In this e-book, Vin is not going to give you pickup techniques for you to practice.  If you are looking for that, get your hands on his other products or someone else’s products.  He does allude to some very powerful techniques but you’ll have to read in between the lines to see that.

What Vin describes in The Attraction Code is how to think to create changes in your life.  He gives you a certain way of thinking about attraction.  How should you think about yourself to change how the world reacts to you?  How does perceptions affect the way you see people and vice versa?

What are the behaviors that make people inexplicably drawn to you?

How should you feel about yourself so that you can radiate that calm yet magnetizing energy?

What is attraction?

Attraction is not what you do to a woman; it is what you cause her mind to do when you’re with her and in your absence.

I’ve talked to a lot friends from within and outside the Community and once you practice a discipline long enough, it becomes an art form.  It becomes an art form because at some point, you have to face and shed your insecurities or shortcomings in order to excel in your discipline of choice.

Vin has reached that higher level of consciousness where meeting and picking up women has become an art form.  He’s reached that place where he can express himself naturally and freely.  He free flows.

That’s what The Attraction Code is about.  It is about knowing how to reach that state where you can free flow with your ability to attract women.  (more…)

The more I help people on bootcamps, the more I realize I enjoy coaching.  

Most of the time, I don’t end up coaching a whole lot of technical stuff.  Most of the bootcamps I help on are “natural game” focused anyways and as such, I usually talk a lot about mindsets, beliefs and perceptions.

The interesting part for me is to see that most of these students that come to bootcamps are REALLY good guys.  They are typically successful in their own rights in whichever areas they pursue but because of the focus society puts on us to become performance driven machines, they have forgotten to develop their (inter)personal skills.

All these guys are kind of like me in some ways.  At one point in their life, they forgot how to just enjoy the little moments, how to be present with someone, how to actively listen and carry a conversation.  They forgot how to truly listen to their own desires and how to have fun.

I know I talk a lot about the Seduction Community and its various facets but in the natural game side of things, very few people aspire to be Pick-Up Artists (PUAs).  They definitely want to meet a lot of women like the Pick-Up Artists do.  They definitely want to have more choice in the quality of women too but very few of them ever consider themselves a PUA. 

They don’t really approach women with a hunting mindset.  They usually think of developing themselves to be able to attract the women they want and for me, they truly embody the abundance mentality.

Most natural guys I have met are absolutely okay with (more…)

Bootcamps are always an interesting affair. 

From a student/client’s perspective, you are there to absorb as much as you can, see how things are done in-field and you hope that you get enough 1-on-1 attention to kick your game up a notch even though… this is just the beginning for you.

From an instructor’s perspective, bootcamps are always hard work.  If you care for your clients/students, you make sure they are learning and improving under your watch but you also want to make sure they are having a good time.  Sometimes, you have to sacrifice your own fun to make sure the student/client is doing ok.  Sometimes, you have enough good instructors with you that you can afford to get a little enjoyment yourself while on the job.

Overall, it takes a lot of energy out of you if you are an instructor.  Everyone learns at a different pace.  Give the students/clients too much theory and they get bored.  Give them too little role play, not enough drills and too few exercises and they don’t internalize the concept.  In field, if you don’t walk them through the process at first and if you don’t give them enough personal attention, they feel lost.

By the end of a bootcamp, I want a client/student to gain enough social awareness so that he can navigate any social interactions with confidence.  If he can do that, he shouldn’t have too much trouble attracting more women in his life afterwards and if he can follow-up with these women… [smile]

So this past weekend, I agreed to help Adam Lyons run his very first U.S. bootcamp alongside Johnny Wolf and Adam’s girlfriend Amanda.  We had 4 students coming in and we had 4 instructors. 

Let me tell you, the weekend turned out to be one of the most fun bootcamp I’ve ever participated in.  I’m not sure if I can credit this to Amanda as she brought balance to this highly testosteroned environment or if it was because… when you hang out with truly exceptional guys, whatever you do always turns out fun.  (more…)