Do I get nervous when I am about to approach someone?  Sure I do.  Sometimes.

Do I ever get blown out when I start talking to a stranger?  No.  Very rarely… if at all.  I personally don’t remember the last time I’ve had a crazy rude reaction to my approach.  Most of the time now, when I decide to approach, I’m just having fun with it.

When you are having fun, everything is effortless.  When you are having fun, you are creating energy and people are attracted to that.  You don’t think things too hard, you don’t care too much about a specific outcome and you definitely don’t get stuck on what people will think of you.  “Having fun” is a great mindset to have when you want to meet and attract a lot of people to your life.

But let’s be honest.  As much as I don’t think too much about how people perceive me, deep deep deep inside, I do want people to like me.  I do want to make a good impression.  If it’s a pretty and cool girl, I do want her to be attracted to me so that we can finally hold hands, kiss, make out and even possibly start having sex LOL.  So is there something magical that I do to engage people consistently in interacting with me?  Is there a magic phrase or word?

Well… no, there isn’t. 

You already knew that.  If there was, I’d be a millionaire already.  However, I will let you in on a little secret.  There is something that I do every time before I even open my mouth.  For those of you who are a little bit shy and really need a step-by-step guide to “how to approach,” this is what I do.

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