Once in a while, I like to bring in guest bloggers to write an article.  We can learn so much from each other’s unique experiences because when it comes to dating, there really isn’t ONE “right” way to do it. 

Speed dating is kind of a new thing for a lot of people.  I personally haven’t done it but I’m kind of curious about it.  A lot of young professionals like it because you get a quick “trailer” on someone and you can decide if you want to take things further.  Today, Art Malov, author of ParkBenchDating.com  – Guide to meeting women in the daytime, wants to share his insights with you on that very topic.

Speed dating always seemed an interesting phenomenon to me.  The advertising I saw made it seem like when I sign up, I am getting a free date and that things couldn’t go wrong.  Women are already there and ready to be picked BY ME.

“WoW” I though to myself that’s soooo good, almost too good to be true.  So I signed up for my first speed dating event to see what this whole experience was about.  On my first event, I went with guns blazing:  charming, loud, funny, completely in my frame. Girls loved me…. Right?  Well nope, I didn’t get a single match. Apparently being charming, funny, and confident to EVERYONE wasn’t the right message to send since I couldn’t POSSIBLY connect with every single girl.  Somehow, I was painting myself straight into the player category.

Let me tell you, it stings when you speed date and you feel as if you have connected with a number of women but then you find out a few days later that there are no matches waiting in your mailbox.  It would have been easy for me to blame every woman that I met for not liking me or simply rationalize that I didn’t like anyone at the event.  I could also go into despair wondering if something is wrong with me.  However, that’s simply not true.  Speed dating is a great way to meet new people.  Everyone is single and women are actually paying to meet me!  I just had to learn which pitfalls to avoid.  Less blunders equal more matches which translates into more dates for me.

Since that event, I have made some changes to my entrance:  lower key, not opening to everyone, kept confidence in check (over confident = arrogant) and matches started rolling in, in mass.  So after attending too many speed dating events to figure out what works and what doesn’t, I want to share with you what I found out, especially if you want to not only meet more women but also meet the women you want.
 
Before I get into details, I suggest arriving at the speed dating event a few minutes early.  This way you’ll have enough time to grab a drink and feel more comfortable, instead of arriving a few minutes late and having to scramble to get to the event. 

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