Hello peeps, Jack here again.

Here’s something I’ve been practicing on lately – observing my surroundings.  

Now, on some subconscious level, we all do this everyday, everywhere we go.  

Sometimes, we just tend to not pay attention to our surroundings even though we see everything.  If you happen to be one of those people whose work requires a lot of observation skills, then your instincts are probably well honed and sharp.  

Personally, I’m not so proud of my own observation skills. Compared to a natural, I’d say I’m pretty sucky… which is why lately, I’m training to become even better at it.

Believe or not, women are much better at observing their surroundings than men are.  Biologically, they already have a wider peripheral vision than us men.  Add to that, as a man in today’s society, we really don’t have to worry much about our safety but women think about their safety all the time. Thus, this creates a tendency for men to be ignorant of their surroundings. 

I’ve hung out with Khiem and his observational skills are crazy. Based on a quick observation and sometimes with the use of an assumption, he can come up with a relevant opener in seconds.

If you haven’t noticed, “naturals” (guys that are exceptionally good with women since a young age) are very proficient with their observation skills. This awareness of their surrounding/environment allows these guys to understand women on a more instinctual level.  

Good observation skills allows you more than just notice what the woman is doing or coming up with something clever to initiate a conversation with her. From what I could tell, a natural uses his observation skills to further understand a woman’s mindset. It’s as though he is observing the woman and knowing what she’s thinking about from inside her own head.  It’s as if he was standing in her own shoes.

He may not be aware that he is doing it at all but nonetheless, whatever he observes, he makes direct association in his mind of what the woman wants. 

Let’s say he sees a woman wearing a stunning silk red dress at a party. Just paying attention to that simple fact allows him to make certain assumptions on her. She could be very confident in her sexuality. She may want to stand out from other women and catch people attention tonight. With red being such an exuding color, she may be very outgoing by nature or at least she’s feeling social tonight.

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Business:

Microsoft is hosting their 2nd annual Small Business Summit this week.  I’ve spent a few hours today watching and listening to their keynote speakers online and it’s all great stuff!  So go check it out if you have the time.  It’s free and you can watch the presentations again within 72 hours if you missed the original time slot.

Sciences and Psychology:

I just read 2 articles that describe how body language, and more specifically how walking patterns play a role in what people find attractive in the opposite sex.  These just confirm that if you have bad body language, FIX IT!  The 2 articles have little videos that demonstrate what constitute an attractive walking pattern.

• How Body Shapes Up Takes More Than a Good Build from the Scientific American
• Secret of Attraction?  It’s All Due to the Wiggle from the Telegraph newspaper in the UK

The next article talks about polyamorous relationships.  Surprisingly, it appears that most people in polyamorous relationships “reported ’love’ or ‘connection’ as important reasons for staying together” unlike people in monogamous relationships who “often list external factors such as religion or family as major reasons for remaining committed.”

• Love Unlimited:  The Polyamorists from New Scientist

Psychology Today has a couple of interesting articles as well.  The first one debates the role of female orgasms in reproductive functions.

• The Orgasm Wars.  The conclusions are pretty astounding: 
  • A woman’s capacity for orgasm depends not on her partner’s sexual skill but on her subconscious evaluation of his genetic merits.
  • Women’s orgasm has little to do with love. Or experience.
  • Good men are indeed hard to find.
  • The men with the best genes make the worst mates.
  • Women are no more built for monogamy than men are. They are designed to keep their options open.
  • Women fake orgasm to divert a partner’s attention from their infidelities.

The second one talks about social anxiety.  As I wrote before, overcoming approach anxiety and becoming socially confident is a learned skill. 

• Confidence:  Stepping Out.  Here’s an excerpt:

  • Mastering social skills requires tuning in to your self-esteem. But instead of being self-conscious and fixating on your anxiety, work on creating positive interactions that make the people around you feel engaged and happy. Focusing less on yourself and more on others will yield big payoffs in expanded social opportunities.

Seduction Community News:

Not long ago, Erik “Mystery” Von Markovik split from Mystery Method to create his new home at Venusian Arts.  Today, it seems that Vin “Woodhaven” DiCarlo is no longer affiliated with theApproach as he is not listed on theApproach’s homepage anymore.  Instead, he now has his own website called DiCarlo Diclassified that is currently selling an audio program with workbook.  Dan “Spirit Fingers” Rose, the author of the “Sex Revolution Handbook” and owner of the Sex Revolution Blog, also seem to have parted ways with theApproach to follow Vin DiCarlo.

I have  edited my previous post about how the Seduction Community is divided to reflect the change.  In any case, from having read the “Sex Revolution Handbook” myself and from having met Vin DiCarlo before, I can recommend any of their products with confidence to anyone interested in learning “Natural Structured Game.”

I guess the fact that the Community is reproducing itself is good, right?  The Seduction Community is creating more babies! LOL

EDIT 03/20/07:  From a recent theApproach’s newsletter, Vin wrote:

Hi Friend - 

I’ve gotten a lot of questions in the last 24 hours about DiCarlo
DiClassified. Thanks for everyone who bought Dating Diablo and who
registered for my special private list. This list is only for my
personal friends and biggest supporters, so definitely tune in to
get exclusive new content from me and perhaps a few friends.

About theApproach: I still train, write, and develop new content for
theApproach. It’s still my baby, and we’re still the best way to get
your game handled completely naturally. Thanks for all your support
of my personal projects and of theApproach.

Vin