…you know how to entertain yourself!!!

If you don’t know how to have fun at the club, don’t go. 

Or if you want to be good at club game, then take some time to learn how the social dynamics at a club or at a bar works. 

It’s really not that hard.

Let me spell it out for you.  H-A-V-E   F-U-N.

Clubs and bars are just places for you to be social and retarded at the same time.  The real “seduction” game is always done in isolation, when you are 1-on-1 with the girl.

Whenever I go to the club (and I don’t go that often), I always see 2 kinds of guys:

1. the wall flower
2. the hunter

The wall flower is the guy who hopes to meet someone but for some reason, he’s too scared to talk to anyone.  Something is blocking him.  He wants to meet someone so bad that he inadvertently puts immense pressure on himself and psyches himself out… so there he stands, on the sideline, admiring everyone walking by.

I can relate to the wall flower guy.  I used to be one of them.  Either the music is too loud and I didn’t think the woman would hear me so I didn’t approach, or the girl is too hot and I get intimidated, or I would think too hard and get all self-conscious because i thought everyone would look at me if I tried to approach a girl or if I went on the dance floor.  I didn’t want to embarrass myself.  I would go to the club because all my friends were going but deep inside, I hated it because i didn’t know how have fun there.

Then there’s the hunter.  The hunter wants sex so bad that he’ll prey on any person in heels.  Some of the Pick-Up Artists (PUAs) I know are hunters.  Some of the natural guys I know are hunters too.  The good thing about hunters is that they have no fear.  They are super goal-oriented (because they want to get laid) and they can just walk up to the girl without thinking twice.  They go after what they want.  They appeal to girls because they seem confident.  

Do they get any play?  Sure they do because it’s a numbers game. 

The bad thing about hunters is… by the end of the night, they might have creeped half the club out.  They are also not always good at connecting with women.  They are going after a goal so they forget to truly be present and they forget to fully connect with and appreciate the woman in front of them.  A lot of the hunters are somewhat insecure too.  They need the validation of “getting the girl” to feel good about themselves.  I guess in some weird ways, they are needy.

If I had to choose between the two of them, I’d prefer hanging out with the hunters.  They are fun!  No matter what they do, no matter how the situation turns out, it’s always something to remember later on.  They don’t care how they are perceived so they are hilarious to watch and make fun of.

However, I lied to you.  There is a third type of guy that you can see at the club.  This is the kind of guy I hope I am.  This is the guy who I would ALWAYS pick to hang out with over the wall flower and the hunter.

3.  the cool guy

The cool guy is the kind of guy who knows how to have fun.  He brings the fun to everyone so people always want to be around him, women included.  He’s not overly boisterous, obnoxious, sexual or even creepy like the hunter.  He is just socially savvy.  When the time comes, he knows what to do to get the girl.

He doesn’t try too hard to impress anyone but he knows how to connect and make others feel special.  He lifts people up.  He’s usually a leader in his social circle and people respect his opinion.  When you hang out with him, everything seems to flow naturally.  You always have a good time when around him.

EVERY man wants to be the cool guy.  We want to be that guy that radiates of fun, warm, masculine and friendly energy.  EVERY Pick-Up Artist hopes to be the cool guy who gets the girl.

The funny thing is… you CAN’T PRACTICE being a cool guy.  You either are or you are not.  You can’t open hundreds of “sets” to learn to be attractive.  You have to BE the cool guy. 

So how do you BECOME the cool guy?  (more…)