There are times when I am amazed at the kind of honesty and deep kind of stuff I get to talk about with my guy friends late at night.

If you’ve read my blog for a while, you know I am all about demystifying incorrect beliefs.  I’m all about thinking and living life in a way that helps you achieve the things you set yourself to achieve.

So today, I decided to share with you my raw self.  You get to see me chat honestly about life and dating.  You get to see a side of me that not everyone gets to see unless you know me for a while… or unless you do long-a coaching with me.

Manuel is a friend of mine I’ve mentioned in a previous blog.  He was the jock who needed help with dating.  I’ve helped him for a few months and boy oh boy, he has come a long way since then.  Let’s just say he’s been having some fun.

A lot of the concepts I teach in bootcamps or in private coaching sessions are stuff I’ve experienced and studied myself… and more importantly, stuff that I have experimented with by teaching it to friends to see how it affects their lives.  That’s how I know whether the stuff I talk about works or not.

Grab yourself a cup of coffee or whatever your favorite drink is before reading.

It is a long post but you have plenty of time!!!  You have all the time in your life actually because…  well… we ARE talking about life.

1:16:18 AM Manuel : we tend to get lazy
1:16:22 AM Manuel : in relationships
1:16:23 AM Manuel : men
1:16:30 AM Manuel : don’t you think
1:16:30 AM Khiem : no… I typically don’t
1:16:37 AM Manuel : hmm
1:16:39 AM Khiem : b/c I put a high emphasis on always appreciating
1:16:52 AM Khiem : if I keep the idea of rewarding her behaviors by showing appreciation in various forms
1:16:55 AM Khiem : it keeps her hooked
1:17:04 AM Khiem : so I may get lazy on initiating sex
1:17:08 AM Khiem : but I don’t get lazy in the relationship
1:20:35 AM Manuel : yes, I meant in terms of sex
1:20:45 AM Manuel : sometimes I feel like the fact that it is guaranteed
1:20:52 AM Manuel : makes us take it for granted a little bit
1:20:57 AM Khiem : well maybe for you
1:21:01 AM Khiem : I try to not take it for granted
1:21:01 AM Manuel : in relationships
1:21:03 AM Khiem : b/c I told you before
1:21:07 AM Manuel : hahaha
1:21:08 AM Khiem : if you don’t do the effort to keep her happy
1:21:09 AM Manuel : i know
1:21:14 AM Khiem : her eyes and heart will start to wander
1:21:19 AM Khiem : it’s your job to keep her hooked
1:21:19 AM Manuel : YOU are the Supafreak
1:21:31 AM Khiem : just as it’s her job to seduce us with her femininity
1:22:19 AM Manuel : makes sense
1:22:35 AM Manuel : do you feel that requires a lot of attention on the man’s part? (more…)

Finally!!!  I’m back!

My Dell laptop of 4 years died sometimes in July and man… it’s been hard not to do anything productive for a while.  

I felt I was on some sort of self-imposed vacation… and sure, it was fun but I was really starting to get the itch to write again… and more importantly, to WORK!

Unfortunately, with my laptop’s imminent death, I lost a few files.  Among other things, gone is the great podcast interview I had with Nick Sparks from The Social Man.  I’ll have to do it again, I guess.

In other news, I’m sure you guys have met my new sidekick Jack.  I recently gave him a nickname:  Jack Mack.  Everywhere we go, when he sees someone cute, he’ll disappear and I’ll find him a few minutes later making some girl laugh.  I love watching him.  If I know he’s about to approach, I can already imagine him in my head do his “James Bond walk” strolling up to the girl.

Yakub is still around.  He lives in Virginia though so it’s harder for me to just have spontaneous chats with him as inspiration for the blog.  Hopefully, he can pop in and write a few words sometimes on here.  He just came back from a month-long vacation in Bangladesh.

Right now, let’s talk about something serious.  

I have a grudge.

As a lot of you know, I’ve spent a considerable amount of time exploring what Pickup Artists (PUAs) teach men about women.  There are a lot of positive things the Seduction Community can offer to your average guy’s understanding of women but there’re also many bad, BAD habits or beliefs they teach.

It’s a well-known fact that the typical guy who enters the Seduction Community is the frustrated nice guy who hasn’t been able to get the woman of his dreams very often.  He’s seen other “bad boys” get the girl.  He’s seen his cute and hot female friends overlook him for other men.  He’s understanding, he’s considerate, he wants to please women, he’s kind and helpful yet he doesn’t get the girl.  

He just doesn’t understand what women want.  

So he gets frustrated and somehow, out of desperation, he finds the Pickup Community.

He goes from not understanding women to wanting to know EVERYTHING about women.  He learns about body language, he learns about conversational styles, he learns about flirting/banter/cocky & funny, he learns about subtle signs women give to show interest, he learns about everything he needs to know to be successful with women.

And you know what?  That’s where my beef is right now.

You don’t need to know EVERYTHING to get the girl. (more…)

I’m excited to present you the new Kiss N’ Tale blog!

Browse around and tell me what you think. Some new features include:

• post ratings: you can rate my posts so that I know what you like to read the most.
• editing buttons: you can use basic editing tools to beautify your comments.
• polls: once in a while, I’ll put a survey up to get your opinion on fun topics. Suggestions for polls are always welcome.
• email subscription: if you don’t like rss feeds, you can receive new content via email
• better content navigation: you can easily access the top rated and similar posts from the sidebar.
• contact form: contact me for anything. I will answer good questions with a blog post.
• contribute: if you want to share your insights with the world, write a guest post for the blog.
• recommendations: I will start reviewing products soon.

If you find things not working, please contact me.

Once you are done staring at the beautiful kissing title banner, check out this short story by Shel Silverstein. It’s about a triangle and a pacman… I’m sure you can come up with your own interpretation of the theme but I think one is particularly relevant to guys in the Community:

Are you looking for what you are missing in the wrong places?

Stay tuned for the very first video interview with Erin Stelzer, the fashion consultant, next week.

P.S.: I want to thank Darren Mills for designing a beautiful layout and the people at Ritwik for putting up with my coding requirements. RadiantSun is also awesome for finding the Shel Silverstein story ;p