I met a new client.  When he first called me, he sounded in a panic.  He said he needed help immediately and was told by another client of mine that I was the only guy to go to.

On the phone, he spoke fast.  Just like a 13 year old girl who just went through some major romantic drama, he felt like he was going through a life and death situation.

I listened to him for a few minutes but he was frantic.  I was still unclear what he wanted from me.

I met him, a few hours later, at his house.

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A former client of mine called me yesterday too, multiple times.  He couldn’t hold onto himself.  He was feeling down, like really really really down.  He needed someone to talk to.  He needed to vent.  I’ve actually never heard him in such emotional distress and he’s a big guy too, very masculine, pretty secure in himself, flirty and playful but when it came to this one girl, he was at a loss.

He needed me to reassure him that everything was going to be ok.  So… even at 2 a.m., I took his call.

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Another former client of mine called today.  It seems that when I least expect it, everyone decides to call me around the same time.  At the time I was coaching him, he wanted to be a little bit of a player.  So I helped him flirt with a few women and eventually helped him hook up with a few of them.

Today though, in just a few more months, he’ll be married… to the woman that I made him realize was worth not letting go.  He needed some guidance.  There was a situation at work he wasn’t sure how to handle… and his fiance has been complaining to him about giving mixed signals on his interest in her sexually.

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Everyone wants to fall in love.

Yes, you, and you and you and you…. and me.  It sounds like such a simple pursuit… but it totally drives us bat shit insane.

My ex-girlfriend and I broke up almost a year ago… but when I feel lonely, I start replaying memories of my relationship with her.  Maybe it’s because I haven’t met someone that truly grabs my attention yet but I remember the good feelings we had.  I remember the fun we had.  I remember the hot sex we had.  I remember the connection we shared.  I even remember the playful quirks we found in each other.

She was the only one who discovered that if she was to caress or kiss me on my back around my spine, I get super ticklish.  I literally start squirming like a little girl.  How unmanly for a man, right?  But that’s what made her special among many other things.  She saw things in me I didn’t see or believe enough about myself.

As much as I’m a constant flirt with girls I meet, sometimes I think of other previous girlfriends too.  I wonder what they are doing, I wonder if they found the thing that they were looking for that I couldn’t give them.  I don’t know about you guys but I only seem to remember the good parts of my relationship with them.  To me, there’s always a glimmer of hope that maybe one day… I could recreate that feeling with them (even though I’m not trying to at all).

Maybe I’m a little of a hopeless romantic inside and yes, I can admit that as a man but the most beautiful thing about it is that I always cherish the love I felt for each one of them… and the kind of love they gave back to me.  There’s always a soft spot for them in my heart.

Love… everyone wants it.

We don’t always know how to handle it.  We don’t always know how to express it.  We don’t always know where to find it.  We don’t always want to acknowledge it but we all want to fall in love.  We want to feel those butterflies in our stomach.  We want to feel that excitement when he or she calls you back.  We want to feel that anticipation of not knowing what’s going to happen next.  Even more so, we want to feel special to someone.  We want to feel loved.

The shy girl secretly wants someone to notice her.  The hot girl wants someone to see her for more than what other sees her for.  The player wants a woman who can spark something in him in ways that other women haven’t been able to.  The successful business man wants someone to build and share the life of success he’s already created for himself.  The artist wants to find the one to whom he can truly channel his passion towards.  The sexually driven woman wants someone who can not only handle but also reign in her sexual drive in addition to making her feel totally cherished and honored.

We deny it.  We sometimes repress it.  For whatever reasons, we sometimes tell ourselves we aren’t ready for a committed relationship right now.  For some of us, we even run away or mask whatever pain we feel by acting out sexually or worse, by hiding out from people or from ourselves.  Other times, we actually walk away from a perfectly good relationship because we secretly are afraid of losing it.

But the truth is… (more…)

The first time we met, you didn’t know who or what I was.

There was something that called me over.  From first impressions, you seemed nice.  From first impressions, I was fun.

There was an air about you that intrigued me.  Maybe it was the way you talked, the way you looked, the way you smiled, the way you moved.  I do not know.

I was a little hesitant at the beginning.  Would you be worthy of me?  Would you accept me for me?

As I talked to you, you opened up to me, you shared yourself with me, you made me feel relaxed around you, you made me laugh.

Pleasurable sensations tickled my body when I was thinking about you.

As I got to know you, I felt pulled to you by that invisible force.  Was I being hooked by you or were you being hooked by me?

No matter what we did together, you seemed mesmerized by me.  It was as if you were being hypnotized by me.

Every time I laid eyes on you, I electrified the air around you, I made you giggle, I made you feel like a kid inside. (more…)

Don’t you hate those couples who always seem to be in love?

You know… they are those couples who are always kissing, always smiling, always laughing, always holding hands.  It doesn’t matter where they are, they are always showing some form of public display of affection (PDA).

What’s up with them, huh?  Don’t they have a little bit of common decency for other people’s feelings?  I mean… not everyone wants to see that, right?

It’s so cheesy!  It’s so corny!…  Or is it?!?

You know what?  Get over it!

Kisses… Gotta love’em

I’m the kind of guy who likes to kiss his girlfriend in public.  I’m the kind of guy who likes to hold her hand while driving.  I’m the kind of guy who makes you wish you had a girlfriend with you right now on your arm.  I’m the guy who makes his girl feel like she’s living her own romantic comedy.

My buddy Jack hates it!  He gets all frustrated when my girlfriend and I get fishy faced.  It’s so funny to me.

This past weekend, I was having dinner with a bunch of friends in San Diego.  We were at an Indian restaurant in the Gaslamp District and as I came back from the bathroom, my girlfriend passed me to go there herself.  Before I let her through, I stopped her, gave her a quick peck and continued on.  My friend Mike says with his most authentic Nashville accent:  ”Awww… look at’em.  Khiem just stopped his girlfriend in the middle of the restaurant to give her a kiss!”

To which… one of the girls at our table immediately blurted out:  ”Awww shit…”

The entire group bursted out in laughter.

You may wonder:  did I really have to?  No.  Did I really want to?  Yes.  But as much as some of you hate PDA, I think I may know a thing or two about women that you may not know.

Turn her on, all the time.  Keep her hot and bothered inside.  Keep the sexual tension building up throughout the day.  Keep her connected to you by  the way you look at her, by the way you touch her, by the way you talk to her, by the way you kiss her… and let me tell you, I guarantee you that by the end of the day, you’ll have the best time of your life.  I did.  You’ve never seen more sparks fly before.

So next time you see a couple getting all lovey dovey, don’t be one of those “Awww shit…” people.  Ask yourself:  ”I wonder what kind of sex these two are having.”  More likely than not, they’re having a hellavu better time than you are.

If you find yourself hating PDA that much, are you afraid of your own sexuality?  Maybe you hate seeing people being affectionate because it reminds you that you are really lonely inside.

You may learn a thing or two from me.  I’m the guy who makes your girlfriend wish I was her boyfriend.  I’m the guy who makes her scream at night.  I’m the guy who makes her come back over and over again.

Can you be the lover for the women in your life?

If you are interested in live coaching, the David Wygant bootcamp in Los Angeles for Halloween is pretty much sold out.  However, we have another one coming up in December!  If you are curious on what kind of coaching we do… or how we can help you, give me a call.  I give everyone a free 20 minutes consultation and you can tell me all about your dating woes.