People must be liking the new direction I’m taking with the blog.

Today, inspired by my “First Impressions” series of blogs (first couple stories are here and here), Donnie wants to share a personal story.  He is going to talk about how to not let the monkey chatter cloud your mind and make the best out of your first few interactions with someone.

If you have a an insightful and entertaining story you want to share that truly speaks of how people really think while dating or socializing, email me.  I don’t think you need “gurus” to show you how to date better.  When it comes to improving your chances at meeting and attracting the people you want in your life, I believe we can all learn from each other if we shared more of our experiences with one another.

And Kiss N’ Tale is the place for you to do that!

Right now, the series is about “first impressions” or “first love/lust.”  I also would love people to write about bad sex, interracial dating or being too much of a nice guy.

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Have I been wrong all along?  Back track to a few months ago, to when I was just starting to open myself up and really put myself out there to meet people, everything I saw was what I believed to be real.

I’d work myself up the courage to go and talk to the cute girl behind the counter at the coffee shop and rather than just placing my order, I would talk to her and see what she is all about.  We’d have a good fun conversation that would last for a good few minutes depending on how many people were in line (usually I went up when there was no line) or until I had exhausted the conversation and felt like I had left a good impression.

So what happened the next time I saw her?

I’d walk into the coffee shop and I’d instantly look to see if she was working that day.  When I saw her and she’d look up at me and then look back at what she was doing, all I could think about was:  “Did I creep her out?” “Does she not remember me?” “Should I just leave?”.  Explosions of monkey chatter would go off in my head when in reality, she was just working and being focused on her job, nothing personal.

Do you find yourself “expecting” things from women?  When you think about it, how many times have you not talked to a girl because she didn’t show immediate bubbly enthusiasm that you were in her presence?

What you see is not what you always get. (more…)

Everyone is different.  Everyone is a unique case.

When I meet a client, I love learning about who they are and where they come from.  I take pride in just listening to their stories and deepest darkest insecurities.

I usually feel humbled by their own experiences but also very privileged that they trust that kind information to me.  It is important to me to really understand who you are before I can coach you because in the end, no matter what we work on together, I don’t want you to become another me.

I want you to be  you… the most attractive, cool and confident you.

However, it’s always interesting to hear my clients think that their romantic problems are unique to themselves.  You know what?  You are not alone!  A lot of other people face the same fears.

Dig deep insider of you.  Are you afraid of liking women?  Are women scary to you?  Does sex scare you?

There’s actually a reason why I prefer group coaching sessions instead of private ones.  During a group bootcamp, clients have the chance to learn from each other.

Instead of comparing themselves to me or David Wygant who’ve both already gone through our own shares of pains and tribulations, they get to see other people in their own shoes.  They get to see how other people have learned from their own mistakes and how they overcame their own limiting beliefs.

It’s group therapy!

The key to romantic success is simpler than they believe.  Guys who come for coaching all have the same debilitating fears that prevent them from having the best dating lives they can want.   (more…)

The first time we met, you didn’t know who or what I was.

There was something that called me over.  From first impressions, you seemed nice.  From first impressions, I was fun.

There was an air about you that intrigued me.  Maybe it was the way you talked, the way you looked, the way you smiled, the way you moved.  I do not know.

I was a little hesitant at the beginning.  Would you be worthy of me?  Would you accept me for me?

As I talked to you, you opened up to me, you shared yourself with me, you made me feel relaxed around you, you made me laugh.

Pleasurable sensations tickled my body when I was thinking about you.

As I got to know you, I felt pulled to you by that invisible force.  Was I being hooked by you or were you being hooked by me?

No matter what we did together, you seemed mesmerized by me.  It was as if you were being hypnotized by me.

Every time I laid eyes on you, I electrified the air around you, I made you giggle, I made you feel like a kid inside. (more…)