May 9th, 2008  (4)
Ask The Right Question
Posted by Khiem in: Articles

Last Monday, I was walking with some friends to the movie theatre to watch Iron Man.

If you guys like action or superhero movies, go watch it! It was kick ass!!!

On the way there, the girl asked:

Man… why is it so cold tonight? Brrr…

I looked at her funny and said:

It always makes me laugh when someone wonders why the weather is a certain way. It just is. Why does it matter if it’s cold or hot? It’s not like you can do anything about it. [grin]

She looked at me completely confused while her boyfriend cracked up hysterically.

Seriously… Sometimes, I think people just like to ask the most worthless questions and by doing so, they don’t realize how much mental energy they waste on things that don’t matter or on things they can’t do anything about.

A lot of guys in the Seduction Community do just that.

They focus on the wrong things. They ask the wrong questions. Therefore, they get sidetracked by things that don’t matter. Then they get frustrated that they don’t progress faster.

And sometimes… eventually, they give up.

We all get to laugh at you if you fail
You never fail when you give it your all…
because you learned something from the experience.

Last Sunday, a guy asked me what he could write in his first email to the woman he just met a few days beforehand.

As usual, I asked him for more background information. What do you know about her? What have you done with her so far? What do you want to say or convey to her? Where do you want to lead her?… etc.

Based on what he gave me, I suggested a cool opening topic he could use to start his email so that she would feel the desire to respond to him but as he told me more, something didn’t click.

He told me the girl was from the UK and was visiting LA. She’d soon leave to visit Las Vegas, then San Francisco before returning to London. I asked him:

So when are you going to see her?

To which he replied:

I don’t know.

So I told him:

So why does it matter what you are going to say in your email?!? You aren’t even going to be able to see her!!!

When you are learning something, make sure you ask the right questions. Focus on the right things and you’ll learn a lot faster.

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