I love my guy friends.  There are things that I can talk to them that I can’t talk with other guys.  They are the types of guys that not only know when to give me a gentle pat on the back when I feel down but who also know when to challenge me when they think I’m not being the best me.

Anyone dating them should feel lucky to be with them.  What I love most about them is that they are extremely self-aware, which makes them great socially and in relationships… but they are go-getters too.  They aren’t afraid of going after what they want… and it reflects in their dating lives too.

All my close guy friends date actively.  When they do date, they don’t have much problem attracting women but what is fascinating to me is what we divulge to each other when we discuss how we know a woman is just for fun… or when she actually means more to us than “just having fun.”

One of my friends and clients got married this past weekend too!  It was a b-e-a-u-t-i-f-u-l wedding.  If there is one thing I learned from that wedding, it’d be this:  Indian people know how to celebrate… and… I now know why they are so good at bargaining lol.

So without much fanfare, here’s my list of how you know when you’ve met the right woman:

1. She makes you hungry for more.  Because of her, you want to achieve so much more…  You are not only thinking about yourself anymore, you are thinking for two.
2. You go home tired but seeing your woman relieves the temporary stress you feel.  Just a few  words of encouragement from her are enough to get you ready to fight another day.
3. You feel unstoppable because she believes in you like no one else before… which sometimes actually scares you a little.
4. Even though she believes in you, she’s not afraid to challenge you too.  She helps you see the world (or yourself) in ways you sometimes haven’t thought of.  She’s not just your biggest supporter and cheerleader, she’s at all times your most respected and beloved equal.
5. You realize that ultimately (and just like you), she’s in no way flawless but she’s plenty perfect for you.  There are always other women out there but she’s the one you like and want; she’s the one you want to create something with.  The depth of intimacy and connection you already have with her is something you couldn’t recreate or have with someone else.
6. As cliche a it sounds, she actually makes you a better man.  Things you wouldn’t tolerate with others, you can tolerate with her.  Things you wouldn’t tolerate in others, you can tolerate in her.
7. Everything you do with her is fun.  It doesn’t mean that you or her don’t struggle or argue from time to time, but everything you do is easier and more fun because she’s with you.
8. People actually see you happier.  When you are together, you both kind of glow and radiate together.
9. You can actually imagine yourself growing with her, not just growing old with her, but growing as a person with her.  You not only like… but want her by your side, every step of the way.
10. You understand that even if it doesn’t work out for whatever reason, you have faith that it will.  But if it was to not work out, be it death or break-up/divorce, you wouldn’t have had it any other way.  You have and had much more to cherish with her than without her.
11. Every time you look at her, you think to yourself:  ”Wow, she’s so hot!”
12. Aside from you fantasizing of the naughtiest things you could do to her, you’ve actually thought of the kind of Mom she could be to your kids.
13. You actually feel like you’d want to give her the moon, oh wait… isn’t that called a diamond nowadays?

As you finish reading this list, I invite you to add your own bullet points in the comments section.  How do you know when a woman is right for you?

I’m also very curious about the woman’s perspective too.  I would like to believe that women can this list as their own but I invite them to share their thoughts too.  How do you know when you’ve met the man of your dream?

The first time we met, you didn’t know who or what I was.

There was something that called me over.  From first impressions, you seemed nice.  From first impressions, I was fun.

There was an air about you that intrigued me.  Maybe it was the way you talked, the way you looked, the way you smiled, the way you moved.  I do not know.

I was a little hesitant at the beginning.  Would you be worthy of me?  Would you accept me for me?

As I talked to you, you opened up to me, you shared yourself with me, you made me feel relaxed around you, you made me laugh.

Pleasurable sensations tickled my body when I was thinking about you.

As I got to know you, I felt pulled to you by that invisible force.  Was I being hooked by you or were you being hooked by me?

No matter what we did together, you seemed mesmerized by me.  It was as if you were being hypnotized by me.

Every time I laid eyes on you, I electrified the air around you, I made you giggle, I made you feel like a kid inside. (more…)

Don’t you hate those couples who always seem to be in love?

You know… they are those couples who are always kissing, always smiling, always laughing, always holding hands.  It doesn’t matter where they are, they are always showing some form of public display of affection (PDA).

What’s up with them, huh?  Don’t they have a little bit of common decency for other people’s feelings?  I mean… not everyone wants to see that, right?

It’s so cheesy!  It’s so corny!…  Or is it?!?

You know what?  Get over it!

Kisses… Gotta love’em

I’m the kind of guy who likes to kiss his girlfriend in public.  I’m the kind of guy who likes to hold her hand while driving.  I’m the kind of guy who makes you wish you had a girlfriend with you right now on your arm.  I’m the guy who makes his girl feel like she’s living her own romantic comedy.

My buddy Jack hates it!  He gets all frustrated when my girlfriend and I get fishy faced.  It’s so funny to me.

This past weekend, I was having dinner with a bunch of friends in San Diego.  We were at an Indian restaurant in the Gaslamp District and as I came back from the bathroom, my girlfriend passed me to go there herself.  Before I let her through, I stopped her, gave her a quick peck and continued on.  My friend Mike says with his most authentic Nashville accent:  ”Awww… look at’em.  Khiem just stopped his girlfriend in the middle of the restaurant to give her a kiss!”

To which… one of the girls at our table immediately blurted out:  ”Awww shit…”

The entire group bursted out in laughter.

You may wonder:  did I really have to?  No.  Did I really want to?  Yes.  But as much as some of you hate PDA, I think I may know a thing or two about women that you may not know.

Turn her on, all the time.  Keep her hot and bothered inside.  Keep the sexual tension building up throughout the day.  Keep her connected to you by  the way you look at her, by the way you touch her, by the way you talk to her, by the way you kiss her… and let me tell you, I guarantee you that by the end of the day, you’ll have the best time of your life.  I did.  You’ve never seen more sparks fly before.

So next time you see a couple getting all lovey dovey, don’t be one of those “Awww shit…” people.  Ask yourself:  ”I wonder what kind of sex these two are having.”  More likely than not, they’re having a hellavu better time than you are.

If you find yourself hating PDA that much, are you afraid of your own sexuality?  Maybe you hate seeing people being affectionate because it reminds you that you are really lonely inside.

You may learn a thing or two from me.  I’m the guy who makes your girlfriend wish I was her boyfriend.  I’m the guy who makes her scream at night.  I’m the guy who makes her come back over and over again.

Can you be the lover for the women in your life?

If you are interested in live coaching, the David Wygant bootcamp in Los Angeles for Halloween is pretty much sold out.  However, we have another one coming up in December!  If you are curious on what kind of coaching we do… or how we can help you, give me a call.  I give everyone a free 20 minutes consultation and you can tell me all about your dating woes.