I often get questions about how to make the first move or escalate, such as: When is the right time? How do I turn her on? When should I go for the kiss? The truth is it’s not as hard you may think it is. I know it can be confusing at times when you have read so many articles and blogs on the Internet about the escalation method. If you read what we have to teach you on here I promise you will soon experience lasting change!

Escalation starts from the moment you say hello to her. It’s the moment when your eyes meet her eyes. It’s that moment when two energy poles shift toward one another. When these two energy poles shift toward one another, something beautiful and magical happens, and it is to me one of the most sacred moments. It can be hard to comprehend, but your instincts will know it.

It’s all about how much you turn her on from the word “hello” and leave her wanting more. Below I’m going to break down some key elements you need to remember in order to create enough sexual tension so that the whole escalation thing becomes her idea.

Yes! It’s a powerful way to think about this concept because men out there think about escalating all the time, and they make it hard for themselves to really cherish, celebrate, appreciate and love women. So here I’m changing the game we play, showing you how to put the ball back in her court so escalation becomes her idea and when it becomes her idea, she will be turned by you many times more powerfully. Don’t you want that? I’m sure you’re saying YES I DO!

Now here are the key elements….

First, it begins with the way you gaze in her eyes. Her eyes are the windows to her soul. In the beginning you want to gaze in her eyes long enough to find out the color of her eyes. However, you don’t want to gaze for too long in the beginning because your gesture could come across as intimidating or creepy.

Second, use the power of your voice to your advantage. Speak slowly from your lower abdomen. True leaders speak slowly because they know their voice is worth hearing and people who speak slowly have a commanding presence. Plus, they sound a lot sexier than people who speak fast!

Third, use the power of your smile to your advantage, smiling is contagious. If you smile, people around you will smile; they will feel a warm vibe from you and will be attracted to your energy. In the beginning it’s crucial that you carry a genuine warm smile, this will help her feel comfortable in your presence. Your smile is also a turn on her for her; the way you smile will make her think about the way you would smile at her when you lay next her or on top of her in the bedroom.

Forth, hold yourself with a great posture, keep your chest up, shoulders slightly back and relaxed, and your chin is up. If you have poor posture, remind yourself often about adjusting your posture, and soon you will notice that by becoming more aware of your posture you will develop a more confident state of mind.

Fifth, be in the moment, pay attention to the conversation with intensity, and really care about what she has to say. Think about how would you feel if I made you feel like you’re the most important person in the room? You would feel amazing! That’s the energy and attention you want to give out to people. This is a huge turn on for women and as simple as it sounds a lot of men forget to do this one simple thing!

Think of escalation in terms of climbing a ladder with the right balance. So each time you see her, you want to get to know her better, get closer to her physically, and narrow the distance between the two of you. Gaze in her eyes, give her your sly smile, hold yourself with a good posture, speak slowly, and listen with intensity. When you go through all of these actions she is going to get really turned on by you!

Finally, don’t think about escalation too much when you’re with her, if you do, you will miss the right moment to kiss her because you were not paying attention. Too much thinking about escalation will get you nervous and the monkey chatter in your head will create fears that will prevent you from kissing her. If you do what I said above, and you pay attention to the moment, you will notice that you will naturally create chemistry with her and she will be really turned on by you!

By: Jacob Khan, www.davidwygant.com

Everyone is different.  Everyone is a unique case.

When I meet a client, I love learning about who they are and where they come from.  I take pride in just listening to their stories and deepest darkest insecurities.

I usually feel humbled by their own experiences but also very privileged that they trust that kind information to me.  It is important to me to really understand who you are before I can coach you because in the end, no matter what we work on together, I don’t want you to become another me.

I want you to be  you… the most attractive, cool and confident you.

However, it’s always interesting to hear my clients think that their romantic problems are unique to themselves.  You know what?  You are not alone!  A lot of other people face the same fears.

Dig deep insider of you.  Are you afraid of liking women?  Are women scary to you?  Does sex scare you?

There’s actually a reason why I prefer group coaching sessions instead of private ones.  During a group bootcamp, clients have the chance to learn from each other.

Instead of comparing themselves to me or David Wygant who’ve both already gone through our own shares of pains and tribulations, they get to see other people in their own shoes.  They get to see how other people have learned from their own mistakes and how they overcame their own limiting beliefs.

It’s group therapy!

The key to romantic success is simpler than they believe.  Guys who come for coaching all have the same debilitating fears that prevent them from having the best dating lives they can want.   (more…)

I can’t remember ever feeling this in my life.

Have I ever felt not good enough for a girl?  Sure!  But to actually acknowledge that someone is out of my league, never!

I just watched the movie of the same title last week and by the end of the movie, I started calling my girlfriend “Molly”.

“Molly baby, you are totally out of my league.  I have no idea how I got you!  I totally had to hope that you were imperfect in some ways so I could believe I could be with you,” I said to her in a sarcastic tone.

She hit my arm, rolling her eyes and laughing at the same time.

If you haven’t seen the movie yet, I highly recommend it.  You’ll get a good laugh.  Maybe you’ll even see yourself in that movie but truth is… isn’t that kinda sad?

How many of you actually feels this pain, this void in your soul… telling you that you aren’t good enough when you see a woman you are attracted to?  How many of you truly believe that you aren’t worthy of love, worthy of attention?

How many of you actually rank her on a scale of “desirability factor” and compare yourself to that number?

Why?!?!??!? (more…)