Was that a routine?

It goes without saying that I’ve explored a lot of the Pickup Artist Community in the past few years.  I’ve met a lot of PUAs, read countless books, e-books, watched more videos than I would care to remember and listened to more podcasts that you’d want to in a lifetime.

Even though I no longer study the Seduction Community, I still get the occasional question asking me for my opinion on various gurus, their teaching styles and whether I believe more in natural game or routines.

On the topic of the efficacy of routines, one guru wrote the following to the guy who reached out for my opinion:

ANYONE who tells you not to use routines does not know what they are talking about.  Routines work the best.  Natural game will never be anywhere near as good.  It’s for guys with small comfort zones who are too pussy to try the shit that actually works.  Do the shit that works.  If your comfort zone is too small, then GROW IT BIGGER.  Do not work with shitty methods that fit into your narrow idea of what is “acceptable.”

“Natural game” as taught by the community does not even resemble the game of actual naturals.  Actual naturals say the same things every time.  They are basically using self-scripted routines.  Sometimes they even lift material from other guys they know or from movies or whatever.  Real naturals are basically doing canned game all the time.

“Natural game” as taught by the community is just a reaction against the earlier, more effective methods.  It’s an outgrowth of retarded community politics and the ego clashes of self absorbed gurus.  They care more about “reinventing the game” and “making their mark” than they do about the success of the students.  It’s also an easier sell, because students are too pussy and they think they can get laid by doing the same weak shit they’ve always done and just “being themselves.”  Haha what a joke.  Being yourself doesn’t work at all when “yourself” is devoid of personality, dominance, identity and anything that would attract a female.

So the authors write ebooks that are easier to sell, but the methods don’t work.  It’s a sucky situation, because natural game has become trendy, and tons of guys are now failing with it.

That’s why in <guru program> we toughen you up and grow your comfort zone with material that takes a lot of balls, instead of being complicit accomplices to you remaining a pussy for the rest of your life.

Here’s my response to the guy who asked for my opinion: (more…)

I often get questions about how to make the first move or escalate, such as: When is the right time? How do I turn her on? When should I go for the kiss? The truth is it’s not as hard you may think it is. I know it can be confusing at times when you have read so many articles and blogs on the Internet about the escalation method. If you read what we have to teach you on here I promise you will soon experience lasting change!

Escalation starts from the moment you say hello to her. It’s the moment when your eyes meet her eyes. It’s that moment when two energy poles shift toward one another. When these two energy poles shift toward one another, something beautiful and magical happens, and it is to me one of the most sacred moments. It can be hard to comprehend, but your instincts will know it.

It’s all about how much you turn her on from the word “hello” and leave her wanting more. Below I’m going to break down some key elements you need to remember in order to create enough sexual tension so that the whole escalation thing becomes her idea.

Yes! It’s a powerful way to think about this concept because men out there think about escalating all the time, and they make it hard for themselves to really cherish, celebrate, appreciate and love women. So here I’m changing the game we play, showing you how to put the ball back in her court so escalation becomes her idea and when it becomes her idea, she will be turned by you many times more powerfully. Don’t you want that? I’m sure you’re saying YES I DO!

Now here are the key elements….

First, it begins with the way you gaze in her eyes. Her eyes are the windows to her soul. In the beginning you want to gaze in her eyes long enough to find out the color of her eyes. However, you don’t want to gaze for too long in the beginning because your gesture could come across as intimidating or creepy.

Second, use the power of your voice to your advantage. Speak slowly from your lower abdomen. True leaders speak slowly because they know their voice is worth hearing and people who speak slowly have a commanding presence. Plus, they sound a lot sexier than people who speak fast!

Third, use the power of your smile to your advantage, smiling is contagious. If you smile, people around you will smile; they will feel a warm vibe from you and will be attracted to your energy. In the beginning it’s crucial that you carry a genuine warm smile, this will help her feel comfortable in your presence. Your smile is also a turn on her for her; the way you smile will make her think about the way you would smile at her when you lay next her or on top of her in the bedroom.

Forth, hold yourself with a great posture, keep your chest up, shoulders slightly back and relaxed, and your chin is up. If you have poor posture, remind yourself often about adjusting your posture, and soon you will notice that by becoming more aware of your posture you will develop a more confident state of mind.

Fifth, be in the moment, pay attention to the conversation with intensity, and really care about what she has to say. Think about how would you feel if I made you feel like you’re the most important person in the room? You would feel amazing! That’s the energy and attention you want to give out to people. This is a huge turn on for women and as simple as it sounds a lot of men forget to do this one simple thing!

Think of escalation in terms of climbing a ladder with the right balance. So each time you see her, you want to get to know her better, get closer to her physically, and narrow the distance between the two of you. Gaze in her eyes, give her your sly smile, hold yourself with a good posture, speak slowly, and listen with intensity. When you go through all of these actions she is going to get really turned on by you!

Finally, don’t think about escalation too much when you’re with her, if you do, you will miss the right moment to kiss her because you were not paying attention. Too much thinking about escalation will get you nervous and the monkey chatter in your head will create fears that will prevent you from kissing her. If you do what I said above, and you pay attention to the moment, you will notice that you will naturally create chemistry with her and she will be really turned on by you!

By: Jacob Khan, www.davidwygant.com

There are times when I am amazed at the kind of honesty and deep kind of stuff I get to talk about with my guy friends late at night.

If you’ve read my blog for a while, you know I am all about demystifying incorrect beliefs.  I’m all about thinking and living life in a way that helps you achieve the things you set yourself to achieve.

So today, I decided to share with you my raw self.  You get to see me chat honestly about life and dating.  You get to see a side of me that not everyone gets to see unless you know me for a while… or unless you do long-a coaching with me.

Manuel is a friend of mine I’ve mentioned in a previous blog.  He was the jock who needed help with dating.  I’ve helped him for a few months and boy oh boy, he has come a long way since then.  Let’s just say he’s been having some fun.

A lot of the concepts I teach in bootcamps or in private coaching sessions are stuff I’ve experienced and studied myself… and more importantly, stuff that I have experimented with by teaching it to friends to see how it affects their lives.  That’s how I know whether the stuff I talk about works or not.

Grab yourself a cup of coffee or whatever your favorite drink is before reading.

It is a long post but you have plenty of time!!!  You have all the time in your life actually because…  well… we ARE talking about life.

1:16:18 AM Manuel : we tend to get lazy
1:16:22 AM Manuel : in relationships
1:16:23 AM Manuel : men
1:16:30 AM Manuel : don’t you think
1:16:30 AM Khiem : no… I typically don’t
1:16:37 AM Manuel : hmm
1:16:39 AM Khiem : b/c I put a high emphasis on always appreciating
1:16:52 AM Khiem : if I keep the idea of rewarding her behaviors by showing appreciation in various forms
1:16:55 AM Khiem : it keeps her hooked
1:17:04 AM Khiem : so I may get lazy on initiating sex
1:17:08 AM Khiem : but I don’t get lazy in the relationship
1:20:35 AM Manuel : yes, I meant in terms of sex
1:20:45 AM Manuel : sometimes I feel like the fact that it is guaranteed
1:20:52 AM Manuel : makes us take it for granted a little bit
1:20:57 AM Khiem : well maybe for you
1:21:01 AM Khiem : I try to not take it for granted
1:21:01 AM Manuel : in relationships
1:21:03 AM Khiem : b/c I told you before
1:21:07 AM Manuel : hahaha
1:21:08 AM Khiem : if you don’t do the effort to keep her happy
1:21:09 AM Manuel : i know
1:21:14 AM Khiem : her eyes and heart will start to wander
1:21:19 AM Khiem : it’s your job to keep her hooked
1:21:19 AM Manuel : YOU are the Supafreak
1:21:31 AM Khiem : just as it’s her job to seduce us with her femininity
1:22:19 AM Manuel : makes sense
1:22:35 AM Manuel : do you feel that requires a lot of attention on the man’s part? (more…)