Hello peeps, Jack here again.

Here’s something I’ve been practicing on lately – observing my surroundings.  

Now, on some subconscious level, we all do this everyday, everywhere we go.  

Sometimes, we just tend to not pay attention to our surroundings even though we see everything.  If you happen to be one of those people whose work requires a lot of observation skills, then your instincts are probably well honed and sharp.  

Personally, I’m not so proud of my own observation skills. Compared to a natural, I’d say I’m pretty sucky… which is why lately, I’m training to become even better at it.

Believe or not, women are much better at observing their surroundings than men are.  Biologically, they already have a wider peripheral vision than us men.  Add to that, as a man in today’s society, we really don’t have to worry much about our safety but women think about their safety all the time. Thus, this creates a tendency for men to be ignorant of their surroundings. 

I’ve hung out with Khiem and his observational skills are crazy. Based on a quick observation and sometimes with the use of an assumption, he can come up with a relevant opener in seconds.

If you haven’t noticed, “naturals” (guys that are exceptionally good with women since a young age) are very proficient with their observation skills. This awareness of their surrounding/environment allows these guys to understand women on a more instinctual level.  

Good observation skills allows you more than just notice what the woman is doing or coming up with something clever to initiate a conversation with her. From what I could tell, a natural uses his observation skills to further understand a woman’s mindset. It’s as though he is observing the woman and knowing what she’s thinking about from inside her own head.  It’s as if he was standing in her own shoes.

He may not be aware that he is doing it at all but nonetheless, whatever he observes, he makes direct association in his mind of what the woman wants. 

Let’s say he sees a woman wearing a stunning silk red dress at a party. Just paying attention to that simple fact allows him to make certain assumptions on her. She could be very confident in her sexuality. She may want to stand out from other women and catch people attention tonight. With red being such an exuding color, she may be very outgoing by nature or at least she’s feeling social tonight.

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