You can see it.

You can feel it.

You can almost smell it.

On the surface, everything looks fine… but for the more emotionally in-tuned of you, it’s a feeling you can’t miss.  It’s the vibe you get when you see two people who were once in love now being disconnected.  Their eyes lack the fire that once made them come alive.  Their eyes wander.  Their motion feel out of sync.  Their soul scream quietly for attention, for affection, for love.

When you pay close attention, you can see so much in people.

That’s what I saw when I watched “Natalie,” a friend, at my family’s Memorial weekend barbecue.

She moved around the house caring for her two young children (less than 2  years old) with an empty gaze.  As beautiful as she was, her body looked tired.  Her husband was on the other side of the house socializing and mingling.

They took turns watching over the kids… but their interaction together felt emotionless.  I didn’t hear any words of caring or love towards one another.  Even when talking to each other, they moved like two people living in their own bubbles.

When food was served, the husband went and filled his plate just to come back to watch over the kids while “Natalie” went to fill hers.

There was no “what can I get you babe?” or “sweetheart, you should try this… it’s really good!”

After 15 minutes of the kid playing in the jacuzzi, (more…)