I’ve been meaning to start a series of articles that takes a humorous angle on sex.  No matter how good you are… or how bad… sex is really funny sometimes!

If you are new to my blog, you should definitely read my Kill The Mood Please blog as well as my Most Unlikely Orgasm for Men blog.  I promise you, you’ll never look at sex the same way!  If anything, it will give you a good laugh and put you in a good mood for the weekend

Today, I don’t have a funny sex story for you but I was browsing some of my old documents for inspiration and I came across this nice little write-up that an ex-girlfriend of mine wrote a while back.  I won’t tell you if any of it was inspired by me or not but in either case, you’ll get the benefit of it!  So here it is, in all its glory, for your titillating reading pleasures.

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A lot of men want to be great lovers but they never take the time to ask the woman if they are satisfied with their love making skills.

Women like to have all their senses stimulated.  It’s how you touch her and caress her, how you talk to her and build a connection, how you look at her, how you whisper to her, how you can create and build up desire and affection.  I can’t tell you how many times I have been disappointed in bed by selfish lovers. [Editor's note:  or emotionless lovers]

Men assume that having sex only involves minimal foreplay and go straight to fucking… which usually lasts about 5 to 10 minutes.  It’s just a release for them.  For most women, that’s not even enough to have a (good) orgasm.  Men need to take the time to stimulate the woman’s senses and imagination.

I had an ex-boyfriend who would only be interested in sex for one round, maybe two.  We’d get to business and once he was done, he wasn’t interested in more.  I was just starting to get into it!  It was so frustrating…

I would recommend at least 20 minutes with foreplay which involves kissing, oral pleasure, or even something playful like feathers and blindfolds.  If you really want to get more playful, you can try whipped cream and chocolate syrup to lick off of each other.  Just have fun!  Get creative with it!

After foreplay, don’t immediately start fucking her.  You need to build anticipation so she can have a bigger, stronger (maybe longer) orgasm.  Make her want more.  Tease her a bit with the tip of your dick against her pussy and slowly insert the tip… but not going in all the way.  Slowly insert the tip about 7 to 8 times and then, (more…)

Nothing makes me happier when I have someone wanting to write a guest blog!  The purpose of Kiss N’ Tale is not only for me to share with you guys what I have experienced and observed in the world of dating… but also for you guys to share the funny or interesting sides of finding love.

So if you ever want to share something insightful or comical, don’t hesitate to email me!

Today, I have Cooper wanting to share with you guys a little story.

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My girlfriend and I got together as many people do.  I met her via another friend and got to know her casually before I realized I felt something extra with her… there was an extra spark.

We naturally started seeing each other more and more.  Things moved forward from there.  There was a point where desire caught fire and we couldn’t resist fooling around a little bit.

Just as with any new burgeoning relationship, I was wondering exactly how far I could take things, what turned her on, what would get her excited, what would make her want more etc.

I definitely remember some times where awkwardness played a fun role as we figured each other out.  If you’re like me, you prefer things start out less intense instead of too wild, certainly not boring by any means but you can always intensify things up from there.  I like to feel my new partner out at first, ask her questions about what she likes before our naughty intentions completely take over.  I like to say things like, “Where should I kiss you…” and smile as I test her with a little smack on the ass and say, “Yeah, you like that?”

Everyone is naughty, some more than others.  Some won’t allow themselves to wander in the realm of sexual imagination whereas others want things that most of us wouldn’t even dare imagine.  All of that is perfectly fine and I find myself to be somewhere in the middle.  I sometimes chuckle, maybe out of embarrassment, when someone says something dirty but what I’m really thinking is, “Oh yeah baby, bring it on.”

Dirty talk is really the best (and I’m not talking about the lame porn style way either.  That’s just not hot).  If you haven’t done so yet, you’re missing out!  You just have to feel your partner out and see how much she enjoys it and how comfortable she is with it.  Start slow.  Don’t take it too far, try some nibbling with a little love smacking and some vocal “ooo’s”, “ahh’s” and “you like that, don’t you?” I know that dirty talking my girl certainly revs my engine up!  I know she enjoys it too.

Then move up from there… maybe even to full blown verbal role plays.   (more…)

Whenever I hang out with my college guy friends in a group, there is always a tendency for them to demonstrate to one another that they are not gay or not acting in any feminine fashions.

In fact, any acts of weak behavior is taboo and deserve a kick in the nut sack.

It seems that they always feel the need to demonstrate that they are as straight as a heterosexual can be and are in every way the quintessential alpha male, aka “The Man!”. 

I consider this typical college fraternity mentality.  The sad part is most guys never grow out of this mindset for a long time. For some, sadly to say, their entire lives are lived out in such ways.

GUY1: “DUDE!!!…………..Did you see that shit?  That was AWESOME! YEAH, I OWNED THAT SHIT.”

GUY2: “That’s what I’m talking about man!  Grand Theft Auto is awesome.  You can shoot cops and run people over.”

GUY3: “Iono guys, this game is nice and all but it’s a little violent. I like playing tennis on Wii better than this cuz it’s more relaxing and entertaining. You know what I mean?”

GUY1 & GUY2: “WTF!? Dude you’re freaking GAY!”

GUY2: “Yeah man that’s the most homo thing I’ve ever heard” 

GUY3: “F&*k you two!”

GUY1: “Why don’t you go play with your little Wii and do your Dance Dance Revolution routine in your living room.”

Does the above conversation sound familiar?

Typical behaviors for these kind of men include talking louder, making more noticeably overt gestures to draw attention to themselves, laughing with deeper voice and trying to one up one another by making fun of each other.  

When hanging out together, they make sure to leave enough space in between one another to not get too close and touch the other guy by mistake.  They MUST not show any form of physical contact with another man aside from the manly punching and slapping.

After traveling and learning about other cultures, I feel that most men in the United States (my college buddies included) are very homophobic. They are afraid to show the sensual sensitive side of themselves to people, particularly in front of other men because they fear being chastised by their peers.  Most of them associate being sensual as feminine.  

They cover this insecurity of potentially being perceived as a “weaker” man by showcasing outrageous overt behaviors such as acting like a jock, walking with a swagger, etc. 

It wasn’t until I took theApproach’s bootcamp with Sebastian Drake and later on, until I started hanging out with Khiem that I realized how silly these societal conditioned perceptions can be. 

Those of you who have traveled a lot probably have noticed that men from the rest of the world are quite different than men from the US.  Most of my European and South American friends are very sensual and in tune with their sexuality.

They own their manliness image by not being afraid of gentle touching, fully body hugging, cheek-kiss greeting and generally-speaking being comfortable around and in the presence of other men. With women, they show even more warmth than with men.  

Everything about them conveys how comfortable they are with their body and sexuality. They are not afraid to show people their real side instead of our typical American cowboy, alpha male demeanor. They express who they are with authenticity and purest form of desire.

On the contrary, American men seem lost and (more…)