I never understood it. Why do guys pick “targets” so quickly? Within 5 minutes of approaching, some guys already know which girl they want to pursue. If their wingman is around, they code him which girl to back-off from and the wingman will start distracting anyone else so that his buddy can run his game on the target.

I don’t have a problem with wingman tactics but why would I pick a target so fast? The one thing I learned from the Community is to screen beyond looks. Don’t get me wrong. My brain still respond to the sight of a hot girl but now, I don’t get the knee-jerk reaction I used to get. Now, I look for women who can impress me. I not only desire a hot girl. I want a cool girl too.

When I go out with my friends, we abide by a simple rule: whoever connects with the girl best gets the girl. It sounds simple but it’s quite a tricky rule. So how does it work?

1. If my friend opens a girl, I will give him time to reach at least a base level of familiarity with her. I can stay in conversation with him and her as a group but I will not try to steer the attention away from him.
2. If we talk to a group of girls, it’s actually preferred for us to switch conversational partners once in a while so we can each find the girl we like the best. Not only does it allow the girls to get comfortable with all of us but it also allows us to boost each other’s value/attainability. It also helps avoid the situation when one girl gets bored by one of your wingmen and ends up dragging the entire group away because of that.
3. When I sense that a girl is really into one of my guys, I will leave them both to their own devices and focus on someone else. I don’t need to leave them alone until then.
4. (Optional) If I play a critical role in helping my guy get the girl, he owes me dinner.

The interesting thing is that each one of my friends have slightly different standards in terms of what it takes for a girl to impress him. If we each picked target early solely based on looks, we would restrict ourselves to someone that may not even excite us at all. So for us, this rule has worked out pretty well because it helps maximize the chance of everyone getting someone.

But what if you were really intent on getting the one girl? Well, just make that clear to your wingmen from the beginning. We will make sure not to step on your game. When you decide to isolate your girl, we won’t get in the way. We’ll know to look for other women to keep us entertained.

The one thing I request from guys I hang out with is not to be the jealous or paranoid type. Once in a while, your “target” may really get interested in one of the conversation topics started by me or our wingman. That doesn’t necessarily mean that she likes us more. When that happens, use us to your advantage. Realize that you really don’t have to do all the talking to get the girl but lead/control where the attention goes. We are socially savvy enough to notice what you are doing and that’s a clear indication for us not to take your your woman away from you. Remember: if you allow your friend to become cool in front of the girl’s eyes, then you indirectly become way more attractive too. On the other hand, if this girl didn’t really connect with you as much as she did with any of us, well… there are plenty more for you to talk to.

Anyway, if you are just looking to fuck a hot girl because you have that craving for physical pleasure, pick a target immediately so you can “get to work” and isolate her. I can understand how you need your “alone” time with her so you can work your magic. You want to stimulate her from all possible angles and it makes sense why you’d perceive other guys as a real distraction in that kind of situation. You are the hunter and she’s the prey.

But if you are like me and my friends who are looking for hot and COOL girls, chill out. Have fun with your boys. Learn to vibe off of your friends. Toy with the sexual tension. See which girl impresses you most and which girl you really connect with. Once you know, take it from there. Things always fall into place and trust me, this way is much more fun.