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    November 14th, 2012  (0)
How ONE Cool Guy Approaches His Dating Life (Podcast)
Posted by Khiem in: Advice, First Impressions, Interviews

If you want to learn anything fast in life, nothing beats having a mentor.

But short of having a mentor, how about just asking what other successful people do?

Today, I have the privilege of interviewing one of my good friend Eric about his take on dating and what he thinks men specifically need to learn about women.  You’ll hear some of his personal dating stories, you’ll laugh, and more importantly, I hope you learn something from it.

Without further ado, give a hand to my friend Eric for spending a good hour sharing his insights on the matter.

Topics covered include:

  • Some of the qualities/traits Eric feels gives him an edge in dating
  • What process does he use to go from online meeting to real date
  • How he manages to bring up dirty talk or phone sex to a woman
  • The latest crazy date he’s been on
  • How having sex early with a woman affects the way she perceives your future potential
  • The potential negatives and disappointments of online dating
  • Gold diggers
  • Funny logic from unexpected women
  • 3 things you can do to be more like Eric

If you liked this kind of podcast, make sure to let me know.  I’m wanting to refine the topics I cover with you guys so post a comment.

I’ll see you next week.

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    November 1st, 2012  (1)
Dear Ball Sack Boy…
Posted by Khiem in: Advice, First Impressions

I was going to post my weekly podcast today but sometimes, you receive a letter that is way too good not to post right away.

In the same vein as my previous “Dear Psycho Girl…” blog, I proudly present to you “Dear Ball Sack Boy…”  You are in for a real laugh.

Dear Ball Sack Boy,

At first, you were so irresistibly charming.  You turned on the mood music, warmed up the cocoa butter…  You even dimmed down the lights.  I smiled because I’ve always done it with the lights on before.  So far, it seemed like you had done everything right.

After a nice rub down, you whispered to me, “What do you want me to do?”  I whispered back softly in your ear, “I want you to fuck me hard.”  Your eyes lit up, discovering we were of the same mindset.

As I went down on you, I gently massaged your manly area. You were delighted, “Oh you know how to play with the balls!” I kept going as I could tell it turned you on.

“Pull on it. Hard!”

I only obliged.

“No, hard! Harder!”

“Huh??… Is it okay?  I don’t want to hurt you.”

“You know how you like to be fucked hard?  Same thing.  I like to be pulled on my balls hard.”

“Whoaaaaaaaaa, what?!!”  I thought….

It’s one thing to have hot, passionate, lustful sex.  It’s another thing to be jerking on someone’s balls like it’s a rubber band.

As I was oddly jerking off your balls (instead of your cock), I couldn’t help but wonder if all that extra skin there was a product of genetics or of you stretching it so much from all the masturbatory pulling and tugging you do to your family jewels.

They were just regular-sized balls.  Why the big ball sacks?

I shouldn’t presume.  After all, we just got to know each other but isn’t this our first night? What else would I…

“Oh yeah…  Yeah!  You like my nigga balls, don’t you?”

“Uh huh.”

I was no longer in the mood.

You seemed like a good guy.  Yet you made the theme of the night to be all about your balls.  The whole night was homage to your “nigga balls.”  I must have counted at least half a dozen times when you made reference to your balls or asked me to pull on them hard again.

Then you asked, “What do you want me to do?”

“I already told you.  I want you to fuck me hard.”

“Yeah but what else do you want me to do?”

Sigh.  Don’t you get it?  It’s good and considerate to ask about a woman’s desires….  but don’t be asking us that the whole night!

We had reveled in some dirty talk earlier.  That was good.  That was fun.  I liked that.  But here you are making me think too much in an act that is supposed to be carnal and lustful.

Just take charge and FUCK ME!  In fact, just SHUT UP and FUCK ME!!

Finally…  yeah oh ahhhh oh yes oh god…  no wait…

Something wasn’t feeling right.  Something was missing.  I started to gyrate my ass.

“Why are you shaking your ass like that, huh?,” you asked.

“You don’t like it?,” I said.

“I do… But why?  Why you doing that, huh?”

“Because I wanna come…”
(I took a moment to search for the words.)

“…Come on your nigga balls.”

That’s when I heard you gasp in exhilaration.  You groaned and then went limp.

“Sorry.  Give me another half hour to get it back up.”

Really???  Talking about your balls makes you come?!

After the break, you asked me your favorite question of the night, “What do you want to do?”

“Uhm…  I wanna rub your back in cocoa butter.”

…In all honesty, I’d rather rub your back than rub your balls one more time.  Never will I tell you that I couldn’t feel much from the fucking either.  I couldn’t tell you then, but…

You have one skinny dick.

It’s no fault of your own.  That, I know is genetics.  Though I had no qualms about your length, the only reason I started to gyrate my ass was in hopes that you could hit something.  My G-spot maybe?

And from woman to man:

Leave the kinky unusual ball sack pulling and stretching to the second or third night together.

Let’s have plain ol’ fun sex first, okay?


The “One Time Is Enough” Girl

Was this not a perfect story or what?

I’ve read and re-read it so many times and I still can’t stop laughing.  Dating, sex, relationships… what am I saying… PEOPLE are just funny.

And that’s what makes dating great!

So it’s your turn now.  If you have a “Dear […] Guy/Girl” letter you want to write, email me by clicking the button at the top right of the page.  Remember, the story has to be true.  I don’t accept fiction and please keep the letter to 700 words or less.

If you are selected, I reserve the right to do minor editing for the purpose of flow.

In the meantime, if you are new to the blog and can’t wait for another laugh, go read The Most Unlikely Orgasm for Men and Kill the Mood Please blogs.  If not, you can always send me questions about your current personal dating and relationship situation.

‘Til next time!

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    August 17th, 2012  (1)
The Player & The Art Of Seduction
Posted by Khiem in: Advice, Articles, First Impressions

I was about to post the new podcast for MTV’s Guy Code episode 4 but instead, I thought I’d share something else with you today.  If you’ve been following my blog, you’ll notice that we’ve had a couple discussions on what it means to be a player or what seduction is all about in our recent podcasts.

When I say “player,” I don’t always mean it with the typical negative connotation that most people have.  What I mean by it is the letting out of the sensual lover side that is innate in you.


I personally love to hear other people’s take on the art of seduction and I discovered this little post randomly on a while ago.  I was saving it for the right time to share it with you and today is the day.  It doesn’t seem that the original author still has it posted on her site but it is such a beautiful written piece that I feel we all need to read it for ourselves.

For your enjoyment, here’s a woman’s take on what it takes to seduce a woman.

[Editor’s Note:  I took the liberty to bold and italicize certain phrases]

The Player & The Art of Seduction

The first step to seducing a woman is to win over her mind, try to appear as genuine as you can and don’t feed her lines. A real player knows that rewards only come for those who are patient.

Now ladies, a player is not a man who gets his own and leaves a trail of broken hearts, a player is not someone who jumps from one bed to the next. A real player, is someone who lives his life like a legend, puts a woman into a passionate romance, and works his job like he built the entire company.

Seduction, is a game that forever requires leveling up. It is not lying or taking the first drunken girl back home or nagging a woman to death. It is an art and a skill. Most people will misunderstand it and think it is all about the money and the looks. Wrong. Boys you could think you’re perfect and measure up to all the others, because you have perfect teeth and a perfect body, but you are wrong and will sleep alone for a long time. If you think the amount of cash in your wallet does the trick you are wrong and your bed is a cold as your cash.

Seduction is founded on confidence. A man who does have any self confidence is nothing like a player. Without it, you’ll probably try to trap a girl with cheap pick up lines and a lame game, but honesty is more alluring to a woman as well as a man who is aware of what he truly wants who is solid and grounded.

Physical attraction is still important if you want to seduce a woman properly. You need to be well dressed and clean, you do not need to look like Brad Pitt or whoever, but you do need to look your best. I am sorry boys, but there is no second chance at first impression, and that is one thing that personally works with me. I will pay attention to it, but that doesn’t mean I am superficial for looking at the you’re dressed. Also, if you lack fashion sense, that is perfectly fine, but hygiene cannot be stressed out. Just consider good shoes, pressed pants and shirt and a classy watch. Class and seduction work together.

Harmlessness. Do not appear dangerous, this is not about high school anymore and you don’t need to be the Bad Boy anymore. Don’t expect her to give you the keys to her place, she will be cautious, but worth it. Also, smile but do not leer, do not objectify her body because a woman will notice when you are ignoring the words coming out of her mouth for her cleavage.

Charm! Seduction also is 10% projection of success, 10% appearance, 10% intelligence and 70% charm! But charm is another art, it means making a person aware that you feel good about them.

Intelligence. As a girl, I will want your mind before you body. Women are mental and emotional rather than visual and physical. Engage her thoughts and emotions with questions about who she is and what are her opinions. Don’t investigate too much or interview her, just start a thoughtful conversation. I am sorry but a man who sits next to me at a bar and starts saying random things and doesn’t know how to converse is a dick and will only make me want to get out. Avoid talking about sex, or previous relationships, that’s a real turn off.

Emotional seductiveness. That’s all in four words, excitement, excitement, excitement and spontaneity . Make her adrenaline rush without looking crazy of stalking her and she’ll be addicted to you. Women are creatures of emotions hence the estrogen hormone.

Chivalry. Most men think chivalry is dead. Wrong. That can also work in your favor if you do an act of a well trained gentleman like opening a door. I thought of it as pathetic for years because I was immature, but now it gets me all the time. Do it, I’ll like you. Learn etiquette. Conduct yourself with your best manners.

Sincerity and honesty. Be genuine, women can see the false interest easily.

Greatest turn-ons. Make her feel beautiful, all day every day. But don’t use it as a tool, so just don’t say it right before coming on to her and teasing her, or else she’ll figure out you want her sexually and only sexually.

Remember, a man paints with his brains, not with his hands.

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So now that you’ve done reading it, take a breather and read it again!  And when your mind starts wandering, post a few comments.

What does seduction mean to you?  What have you seen work for you or on you?  Let’s hear your stories.

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