We have one more week to go before Christmas and I sure hope you have finished all your Christmas shopping. I sure haven’t!
With all the upcoming festivities, it’s been hard for me to keep up with my weekly podcast but that’s because I’ve been recording an audio series for you guys to listen to soon. The audio program will be about how to develop a playful, witting, charming and seductive personality.
So make sure to stay tuned for more details soon.
In the meantime, today I invite Evan to help me answer one of the biggest questions guys have when they start getting better with women: should you care about what women think?
More specifically, should you change how you talk or approach women by guesstimating what they are thinking about.
In this podcast, we discuss:
How it’s normal to want to be liked and care about what people think about you (within reasons)
How to know when to stop caring about what other people think
Why your attitude and feelings about yourself matter
Whether “indicators of interests” (IOIs) are that important to understanding how a woman feels about you or not
Examples of how even Evan and I can’t always know what’s going on in a woman’s mind and how it still does not matter
Moving forward until the end of the year, I’d like you to send me more questions about situations you’d like me to answer. The new season of HBO Girls is coming soon and I can’t promise I’ll have time to personally help you when it starts!
Don’t you want to have someone to cozy up to this holiday season?
Most dating advice focuses mostly on one thing: what do you need to change, in yourself, to attract the love of your life.
For men, pick-up advice focuses a lot on what to say and what to do to make your personality more attractive to women.
For women, a lot of dating advice zones in on how they can make themselves look more appealing through fashion and make-up tips. In addition, they also suggest how women need to change the way they think about men to find the right man.
All this inner change talk is mostly healthy. Taking full responsibility for your shortcomings is a necessary step to improving that aspect of your life.
However, I also find plenty of issues with too much “inner change” talk.
The problem with “self-help” advice is that it keeps you in the mode of “I’m not good enough.” There’s always something for you to fix or improve about yourself.
And when it comes down to your romantic life, you know as well as I do that:
You are the most attractive when you feel the most confident and happiest about yourself.
So today, let me ask you simple question: are you really that bad?
Are you so bad that you can’t find someone to go on a date with you… to hook-up with you… to love you?
When are you going to be enough?
On today’s show, Evan and I discuss the most common lifestyle, social habits and presentation issues people have that hinders their romantic successes.
Most of these issues are external (meaning you don’t need to do a lot of internal change to benefit from it). As such, they are easy to implement. You just have to choose to do so.
Have a listen. Topics covered include:
Is your place ready to have guests over?
Thing you can add to your home to create conversational pieces
Ways you can arrange things to encourage guests to linger and stay over
Why location is important to maximize your dating success
Do you have a social life and is it reflective of the dating goals you have?
Why a social life helps you tell stories to captivate your targeted audience
Why group outings alone won’t help you find your next boyfriend or girlfriend
How 1-on-1 outings help you practice flirting and builds intimacy, whether you are just friends or more
Why being a man gives you a competitive edge in choosing who to date
The basic steps of meeting to going on dates
The importance of creating a sexual romantic vibe by showing interest
The simple trick to remove self-doubt and act with conviction
What you need to play up to intrigue your targeted romantic interest
How dressing up like your closest archetype is an easy way to attract
Why challenging and calling people out draws positive attention to you
As usual, I welcome suggestions. If there are other things you think people can do to improve their dating situation, write them below in the comments.
And after implementing all these ideas into your love life and you still have problems, contact me. You’d be surprised that a quick phone consultation with me could be the fastest solution to your issue.