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    February 8th, 2013  (0)
Where The Magic Happens – HBO Girls Ep 3 Guys’ Commentary (Podcast)
Posted by Khiem in: Advice, Podcast, Product Reviews

I’m catching up on my HBO Girls schedule.  I’ve watched all the episodes so far this season; I just haven’t had the time to make a podcast for each yet!

So far, season 2 of HBO Girls feels like a total roller coaster to me.  Every episode brings such sweeping surprises that I don’t know what to expect anymore.  If Lena Dunham was trying to get us constantly wondering about what’s going to happen next, well… she’s succeeding.

Where the Magic Happens

The first scene sets the tone for this episode:   when’s the last time you did something for the first time?

If you can’t remember, it’s time to get yourself out of your comfort zone.

And this is usually the very reason why some are better than others at life, not even just dating.  If you aren’t pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, you aren’t growing.  If you aren’t allowing yourself to be open to new experiences, you becoming boring.  And if there’s nothing exciting for you to share, then why would anyone want to date you?

I went out last night with Evan and a couple other friends.  We tried a brand new restaurant.  The food was great, the crackling of the fire in the patio turned the mood into a warm cozy vibe… and I believe it was our ability to smile, be open to new people that allowed us to meet two great girls!  Hopefully, we will get to enjoy their company again soon.

One of my clients, who still happens to be a virgin, was texting me last night too!  He has finally gotten himself to go out and enjoy life in the last few months with no prejudice and with no restraints.  And what I was most happy about was to hear how he has been making out with her heavily for the past few days.  He was so excited!

But none of that would have happened if he didn’t push himself out of his comfort zone.

In this podcast, Evan and I share with you:

  • What “Be Yourself” really means and why it is still good advice for most people
  • How getting out of your comfort zone is a must for you to grow into a more attractive person
  • How you can become a better storyteller by having excitement in your voice because you’ve been trying something new
  • Why being well-rounded is attractive
  • How nice guys should not be afraid of breaking rapport with a woman
  • Why Jonathan Booth’s handling of Marnie’s initial resistance to his charm was irresistibly seductive
  • Why you need to try starfish sex tonight and report back
  • Why you need to stop judging people on the amount of sexual partners they’ve had
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    February 3rd, 2013  (9)
How to Deal with a Breakup – HBO Girls Ep 2 Guys’ Commentary (Podcast)
Posted by Khiem in: Advice, Podcast, Product Reviews

Elijah and Hannah in HBO Girls Season 2

As promised, here’s the second podcast for the week.  I’m a little behind the TV schedule but this second episode of HBO Girls touches on a lot of really good topics.

In this podcast, Evan and I talk about:

  • What NOT to do after a break-up
  • What are some of the best things you can do to give you a chance to win her back
  • How you can use a woman’s vision of her life to your benefit
  • The truth about why some men are commitment phobic
  • How women can encourage men to be more open to marriage
  • How open communication is crucial during “tough decision” times in a relationship
  • Why noise sometimes cloud even our best intentions for the relationship
  • Why men need to sexualize their image more to make their dating life easier

As usual, leave your thoughts in the comments.  If you have questions on your own dating situation, don’t hesitate to email me.

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    January 12th, 2013  (1)
A Woman’s Take on HBO Girls: Episode 10 Revisited
Posted by Khiem in: Articles, Product Reviews

Who’s excited for HBO Girls Season 2 starting this Sunday?

I am!

And in preparation of watching the new season, it’s time to publish Thuy’s take on last season’s finale.


I know that Khiem hated this episode the most.  As a writer though, I totally relished in that jaw-dropping, shocker twist.  I know it seems totally implausible that they’d wind up together, especially after I watched the attempted “threesome” scene again.

As an audience, I did feel cheated in that I didn’t see the emotional turn in Jessa.  But I guess that IS the magic of Hollywood to create that dramatic opener.

Drama is the theme of Jessa’s life.  I don’t agree with Evan’s mom in that Jessa chose the successful guy to maintain her bohemian lifestyle.  What I do agree with is that it all started with her talk with the “mom”.

Jessa creates the drama in her life as a way of compensating for the void in her life.  The excitement is replacing the lack of happiness she feels.  She had always jumped from guy to guy – being unpredictable, feeling the thrill of the conquest, and experiencing the extreme highs and lows.

However, she never really slowed down to create a true emotional connection with another human being.  What she felt in the past was akin to being under the influence of drugs.  She never felt a real, natural high.  She never felt real love because she was manipulating everything.

The talk with the “mom” gave her insight into herself and she finally saw the light.  For her to finally experience happiness, she let go of having power over someone for the first time.  She let go of her judgments.  She let go of allowing drama in her life.  She probably thought it was a grown up thing to finally commit to something and a safe bet to be with the successful guy.

But with her motivations half-misguided, we can only foreshadow that she may have just created more drama for herself.

Look into your life.  See where your actions are motivated from.  Are you just creating excitement to fill emptiness in your life?

Everything does seem flipped in this episode – from Shoshanna and Ray’s quirky exchange to Marnie’s hot kiss with the little fat boy.


I do get why Shoshanna asked:

Are you punking me?

Ray wasn’t just forward.  What he gave her was a backhanded compliment when he told her she was the strangest girl he ever met.

Should she have felt flattered?

I have never had a guy say that to me before… but I do wonder how it works on a girl.  It does put a girl on her toes.  It’s not a typical compliment like “You have beautiful eyes” or “You’re so sexy” (which at times are actually pretty generic and boring, when said too often or ingenuinely).

Please don’t misunderstand me though.  I would never tell guys to stop giving those compliments altogether.  When you are in a relationship, girls love to hear that you still feel they are attractive.  However, when you just meet them for the first time, compliments given too fast or too early just sound like cheap pick-up lines.

What is great about Ray is that he is not putting Shoshanna on a pedestal.  He’s pointing out what could be seen as a flaw but he’s actually completely mesmerized by it!  With that intention, his backhanded compliment takes a different meaning… which is what women love:  to know that someone recognizes what is truly unique and real about her.

I had a guy once give me a compliment about my freckles.  Had I been red- headed, that would have been a typical compliment… but I’m Asian!  Asians usually get:  “You have such nice, smooth, porcelain skin.”

That was the first time anyone had ever mentioned my freckles.  I was so flattered.  It showed me he really paid attention to the little details, to who I was… and that he noticed in me something that others hadn’t.

Marnie taking a soft spot for the little fat boy seemed like a man’s fantasy that Hollywood has portrayed far too often.  When is it going to be time for the hot dude to fall for the little fat girl?!!!

Protest aside, unlike Khiem and Evan, I can see it happening just for the same reason we sometimes see a hot chick walking down the street arm in arm with a geeky guy while wondering what does she see in him.  As unbelievable as it may sound, some attractive women like Marnie go for less attractive guys because:

  1. They are afraid hot guys will cheat on them.  Hot guys get constant attention and distraction from other hot girls. It gives the girlfriend a lot of reasons to be leery, jealous, and insecure.
  2. To a certain degree (I say this because even I have a limit to how much of a blind eye I’ll give to a man’s looks), women put less weight on sheer physical beauty than men do and more weight on the emotional connection.
  3. If she dates a guy who is not as attractive as she is, he will treat her better.  He is more likely to be faithful and more willing to keep her happy.  Research has very much shown that. Read this article:  Dating Down: Why Less Attractive Men Make Better Mates.

The only caveat to this idyllic fantasy is that Marnie once again has found a boy who might put her on a pedestal… just like Charlie!

Now, the biggest flip in this episode is Hannah and Adam.  Typically, it’s the girl who pressures the guy to move in and the guy gets cold feet about it.  Here, the roles are reversed.

I’ve had similar experiences on both spectrums, strangely with the same guy.  After about five months of dating, my then boyfriend said that we should start thinking about moving in the direction of marriage.  I was surprised!  We hadn’t even said our “I love you’s” yet!

I gave him some of the same excuses that Hannah did, like I had so many bills to pay off and I had to focus on my career.  Although I thought his talk of marriage was premature, I did admire how much faith he had in our relationship at that moment.

Adam had that pure faith but Hannah did not believe in herself.  She was afraid that she was going to screw things up.  When I gave my boyfriend the career excuse, he gave me the same response as Adam did:

That’s why we have each other to support.

I didn’t buy it.  I grew up underprivileged.  I didn’t want to start a marriage in financial strife and to have my children lacking what they need.  In retrospect though, he did have a point.  Wouldn’t you want someone to be there for you as your cheerleader through your struggles?  If they have stuck with you through the challenging times in your life, then wasn’t the relationship more likely to last in the long run?

If you wait for things to line up perfectly before you take that plunge, it may never happen.

I realize now that it is sometimes prudent to take things slow and not move a relationship too fast.  Yet you have to ask yourself what is holding you back?


Procrastination is rooted in fear and Hannah was paralyzed with fear.  She didn’t say it out loud but I’m sure she was jumping ahead into the thought of what living together could lead to – responsibility, marriage, and family – all the things that she wasn’t ready to have, all the things that meant she was going to be accountable to someone.

You don’t necessarily have to think that far ahead when you make the decision to move in with someone. (I know I’m going to get girls hating on me for saying that.)  Years ago, I went to Belgium to visit my great uncle.  His son just started dating a girl.  She moved in to live with him and his family just a couple weeks after they had started dating!  It sounds totally radical to us Americans but it turns out it is commonplace to do in Europe.  It’s their way of figuring out if they are compatible with each other.

What a novel idea?!  Why spend such an expanse of time meeting just a couple times a week over a period of a couple years when you can just cut through the chase and figure it out in a couple months?  Making that next step in a relationship may be a scary thing but you will waste less time in figuring out if he or she is the right one for you.

Speaking of the right guy, in every podcast Khiem and Evan complain about how there are no strong men in this show.

Admittedly, I would like to see a male version of Jessa.  Ray is probably the closest character to Jessa but he doesn’t draw in the women like how Jessa does men.  The only time that I can foresee a strong man appearing in the show is if he is a guest character who plays the “straight shooting man” that calls out on these girls or that briefly acts as a romantic mentor to one of them.

Otherwise, how can there be a strong man in the show when there are no strong women?  Each one of the women on the show is so flawed. They’re still figuring themselves out.  None of them have a clear direction of where they are going or who they are.  The fact of the matter is you attract people who are in the same place as you are in your life.

… I can’t wait for next season to see what other guys the Girls will attract!

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