November 9th, 2012  (1)
Simple Things You Can Do to Improve Your Dating Life – Podcast
Posted by Khiem in: Articles, Podcast

Most dating advice focuses mostly on one thing:  what do you need to change, in yourself, to attract the love of your life.

For men, pick-up advice focuses a lot on what to say and what to do to make your personality more attractive to women.

For women, a lot of dating advice zones in on how they can make themselves look more appealing through fashion and make-up tips.  In addition, they also suggest how women need to change the way they think about men to find the right man.

All this inner change talk is mostly healthy.  Taking full responsibility for your shortcomings is a necessary step to improving that aspect of your life.

However, I also find plenty of issues with too much “inner change” talk.

The problem with “self-help” advice is that it keeps you in the mode of “I’m not good enough.”  There’s always something for you to fix or improve about yourself.

And when it comes down to your romantic life, you know as well as I do that:

You are the most attractive when you feel the most confident and happiest about yourself.

So today, let me ask you simple question:  are you really that bad?

Are you so bad that you can’t find someone to go on a date with you… to hook-up with you… to love you?

When are you going to be enough?

On today’s show, Evan and I discuss the most common lifestyle, social habits and presentation issues people have that hinders their romantic successes.

Most of these issues are external (meaning you don’t need to do a lot of internal change to benefit from it).  As such, they are easy to implement.  You just have to choose to do so.

Have a listen.  Topics covered include:

  • Is your place ready to have guests over?
    • Thing you can add to your home to create conversational pieces
    • Ways you can arrange things to encourage guests to linger and stay over
    • Why location is important to maximize your dating success
  • Do you have a social life and is it reflective of the dating goals you have?
    • Why a social life helps you tell stories to captivate your targeted audience
  • Why group outings alone won’t help you find your next boyfriend or girlfriend
    • How 1-on-1 outings help you practice flirting and builds intimacy, whether you are just friends or more
  • Why being a man gives you a competitive edge in choosing who to date
  • The basic steps of meeting to going on dates
  • The importance of creating a sexual romantic vibe by showing interest
  • The simple trick to remove self-doubt and act with conviction
  • What you need to play up to intrigue your targeted romantic interest
    • How dressing up like your closest archetype is an easy way to attract
    • Why challenging and calling people out draws positive attention to you

As usual, I welcome suggestions.  If there are other things you think people can do to improve their dating situation, write them below in the comments.

And after implementing all these ideas into your love life and you still have problems, contact me.  You’d be surprised that a quick phone consultation with me could be the fastest solution to your issue.

Until next time, have a great weekend!


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    October 24th, 2012  (0)
The “How to Host a Great Party to Remember” Podcast
Posted by Khiem in: Advice, Podcast

Let me ask you:  what makes a great party versus a lame party?

Is it the people you invite?  Is it the type of party you host?  Is it the location you use?  Is it the music or lighting?

Today, I’m sharing with you my best tips on how to create a GREAT party that will encourage people to mingle and hook up.  No matter how old you get, I know you all secretly want to have a sexy adventure this weekend and parties are the best for that!

Remember, the best parties are the ones that create a buzz the next day.  When’s the last time you had a party like that?

So this week, listen to the show.  Evan and I discuss:

  • The most important thing to know about creating the most amazing party ever aside from having a theme
  • How having a main event will help you get people come to the party on time
  • How to manage emotional levels through music and lighting
  • The kind of women I typically invite to pre-gaming parties
  • Why having a co-host (or a good wingman) and a bartender can make the parties much more productive for you
  • How to make proper introductions to help people mingle and feel welcomed
  • Examples of games you can use to “force” people to interact with each other and give them opportunity to do a little more
  • The one trick you can use to make sure people stay
  • Where to find ideas for ice-breaker games
  • How parties can fit into your overall dating strategy

If you have more tips, feel free to add them to the comments section.  To borrow one of Schmidt’s line in the FOX comedy show New Girl:

Friends help friends have meaningless sex

It’s time for you to have a good ass night!

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    October 18th, 2012  (0)
The “Maximizing Your Chances to Hook-Up” Podcast
Posted by Khiem in: Advice, Podcast

Alright!  Today is a special podcast on everyone’s favorite topic:  HOOKING UP!!!!

MTV Guy Code special “Hook-Up” episode spent a big deal of time on topics already covered in previous episodes (e.g. flirting, friend zone, foreplay, friends with benefits, morning after) and instead of rehashing the same thing, I thought I’d go more in depth on the topic with you guys.

Particularly, I want to go over the most important thing you need to know about hooking up:  keeping things moving forward.

For some guys, this may come as a shock to you… but hooking-up is not that hard!  Most women KNOW this already.  Why don’t you?

Not to brag, my fastest “meeting to make-out” time has been about 15-20 minutes.  If other logistical issues were not present, I’m pretty sure it would have gone all the way that night within the hour.

My fastest client’s time “from meeting to blow job” was about 10 minutes.  That was in New York… at a bar/lounge, near the bathroom line.

This week, another former client’s time going “from meeting to sex” has been 2-3 hours, broken up in 2 days.

45 minutes were spent the first day chatting up the girl he just met randomly during the day and helping her with an errand.  An hour was spent in the evening text flirting with her.  15 minutes were spent the next morning setting up a time to meet.  20-35 minutes were spent chatting and getting comfortable with each other… until all clothes dropped.

Another female friend of mine hooked up with a guy within 2-3 hours of meeting him in person (though they did have some texts exchange for a few days prior to that).

I’m not sharing this to impress you.  I’m only sharing this with you to shatter your idea of what’s possible.

Yes, these things happen and just to make it clear, none of the people I’ve mentioned above are what I’d consider “players” or “sluts.”

The biggest mistake guys make with women when it comes to hooking-up is they don’t move fast enough.

“Fast enough?” you ponder….

Yes, exactly.  Call it whatever you will:  pulling the trigger, making your move, getting a home run… but if you want to hook-up, you need to give yourself a straight path to get there.

That’s what moving it forward is about.  You can’t linger too long on one aspect of the interaction without focusing first and foremost on where you want to take the woman emotionally.

  1. You need to make your sexual intent clear (through flirting, through eye contact, through body language… whatever) from the moment you meet her
  2. You need to excite her
  3. You need to move yourself and her in an discreet (isolated) location
  4. You need to make your move and close the deal

Does it sound that complicated?

Regardless of how fast you go through these steps, the central aspect of why you date is to have sex with someone.

Yes I know.  You want someone to love.  You want someone to value you.  You want someone to be your future husband or wife.  You want someone to be a great Dad or Mom.  I want those things too!  But would you want all these things if you already haven’t thought of having a sexy steamy fun time with them in the first place?

Whether you decide to listen to this podcast or not, just learning about how to keep the interaction moving forward can tremendously help your “normal” dating life.

In this show, Evan and I discuss:

  • How do you get people drawn to you?  Intrigued by you?
  • Remembering to find reasons to meet again while keeping the conversations going
  • Examples of how to get people engaged with you through teasing and qualifiers
  • The emotional escalation process you need to walk her through:  chatting, having fun, connecting, showing interest (sexualizing the interaction)
  • The shy and the double-take eye contact to show romantic interest
  • Learning to be comfortable with showing subtle verbal romantic interest with “I like that…”
  • The “falling in love” move
  • The best time to get the phone number
  • Social and physical logistical questions you need to be aware of for a fast hook-up: who did she come with, how did she get here, did she drive, how early does she need to wake up by, does she live alone, where does she live… etc
  • The importance of living close to the kind of activities and women you enjoy to make your logistics easier to manage
  • Planning your dates with logistics in mind to maximize your opportunity to hook-up
  • How long you should spend at each location during your date to keep the energy flowing
  • How to make someone feel like they know you better than they do by keeping the energy on and between the dates varied

There’s a lot of little golden nuggets in this podcast.

Make sure to take notes and above all, apply them TODAY to your dating life.  Even if you are in a relationship, learning to manage the energy flow in your date nights will only improve the sexual attraction you have with your partner.

I encourage you to comment below and if you have any questions, email me.  For people more serious on learning the skills to have an exciting love life, we can discuss coaching options as well.  Until next week, have fun!

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